MARRIAGE:  GOD’S DIVERSIFIED INVESTMENT

5 Jan

MARRIAGE:  GOD’S DIVERSIFIED INVESTMENT

Jer.1:5 (NLT)  “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb”.

Psa.139:13-14 “…you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I’m fearfully and wonderfully made…”

GOD LOVES DIVERSITY!!  These verses prove it!!

In Wall Street, “diversified investments” help improve returns and balance the risk tolerance.  With diversified investments, the possibilities of earning higher returns increases with patience.

They put money in a variety of businesses so if one goes down, they have a better chance of the other ones to go up.

According to Forbes, investors with the best diversification can last in the market longer than individuals placing all their money into one investment vehicle.

One of the greatest challenges in marriage is to have a good relationship with your spouse.

Interacting with a spouse who thinks different than you can be frustrating at times.

Your spouse was not neurologically wired to be like you.

Your spouse has unlimited potential just like you do.

Your spouse was designed intentionally.

The purpose of your giftedness, is to celebrate your differences from your husbands.

No two brains think alike and that is what makes us unique.

There are over a trillion different ways in our brains, of processing information.

CASE AND POINT:  Right now all the people that are reading this blog, each one will think about it differently.  Every person who reads this blog, will process the information differently into their brain.  No one else will process it exactly like you.

Psa.139:14 “We are uniquely, fearfully and wonderfully made.”

As your husbands “companion” and “helpmeet”, you become a vital asset in His succeeding to fulfill God’s purpose in his life.

You become a better companion when you see how your husband is uniquely wired.

You must first understand your gift and true-value in Christ to find peace.

As a created piece of the puzzle, you are making a difference.

Your spouse adds value to your life and you add value to your spouse’s life.

When you have trouble understanding a friend or family member, your spouse can help you out by explaining how the other person may feel.

That gives you insight on how to treat other people.

God has such a great system of information and how to get it to each of us.

Your spouse is such a wealth of information to make your lives successful for each other.

Take advantage of their intelligence.

Or do you knock them down and criticize them for their way of thinking?

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be a success.

MARITAL PROBLEMS: LIBERTY TO CAPTIVES

4 Jan

MARITAL PROBLEMS: LIBERTY TO CAPTIVES

What kind of a leader is Jesus and how does my marriage benefit from his leadership?

CASE AND POINT:  When my husband and I went to speak at our church in the PHILIPPINES , it was my first time in that country.  I was shocked at the poverty there.  It is a country with so many Natural resources.  In contrast we were in Singapore first.  Singapore is vibrant and filled with new technology and industry. It has no natural resources but it is thriving with business.  What make’s the difference is the leaders in those two countries.  The Philippines  has a history of leaders who are not giving back to the country just to them.  While the leaders in Singapore give back to the people of that country plus they give to the growth of the businesses.  Leaders make the difference!

The answer is in Luke 4:18-19.

After Jesus spent 30 years of going to the synagogue and listening to others teach and speak, he finally opens His mouth.

It must be of great importance what Jesus had to say.

What are the important words he wants to speak?

He gives His job description!!!!  He quotes Isaiah 49:9

Luke 4:18-19  “The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,

Because He has anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor;

He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted,

To proclaim liberty to the captives and

Recovery of sight to the blind,

To set at liberty those who are oppressed;

to proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.

Liberty means freedom of choice; personal freedom from servitude or confinement or oppression.

Jesus knew that in our marriage we would have a broken heart that needed MENDING.

Jesus knew that we were sick and blind and needed healing.

Jesus came to break the bonds of captivity.

Acts 10:38  “How God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and with power, who went along doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil, for God was with Him.”

 The problem—the oppressing power of the enemy!

Ephesians 6:12 “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.”

Prior preparation for Liberty

  • Desire to be free so you can serve the Lord with a godly marriage.
  • Make sure that you are sincere to God and your spouse.
  • Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal marital areas of bondage or torment.
  • Look over your life (and ancestry) to discover possible doorways.
  • Determine to be free no matter what demonic grip may be on you or your marriage.
  • Don’t be intimidated by “what others think.”
  • Associate liberation with Jesus and freedom.
  • Exercise your faith as much as possible in your marriage.
  • View this as part of God’s gift to you in Christ Jesus.
  • Know this may be the beginning of freedom for your family and offspring.

Reread Jesus’ job description in Luke 4:18-19 and know that this is your job description.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to make your marriage a success.

REACTIONS THAT DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE

3 Jan

REACTIONS THAT DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE

In life and in our marriage we will have mental, emotional and spiritual sufferings.

These are the crosses that we MUST bare daily.

We must accept various trials as from the “hand of God” for our discipline and purification.

The Apostle Paul said we are to reckon ourselves dead, as no longer existing, having no will apart from God’s will.

There are three reactions we must overcome:

FIRST REACTION:  Pride

Prov. 16:18 “Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

SECOND REACTION: Anger

Prov.16:32 “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty.”

THIRD REACTION:  Self-pity

Psa.119:28 “My soul melteth for heaviness; strengthen thou me according unto thy word.”

Here are some progressive stages of dying to yourself:

  1. Correct your evil habits in your marriage.
  2. Stop depending on the feelings of JOY and well-being.

We think that we lose God when we lose our inward joy.

Personal pleasure is not what your moral life of your soul consists of.    It is being in unity with the will of God.

Your marriage lives and thrives by faith and not feelings.

  1. Crucifying your reliance on your good virtues (moral excellence), temperance, faith, benevolence (kind acts) is a necessary stage.

Dependence on your personal virtues is a form of SELF.

  1. Cease rebelling against the negative marital circumstances of life.

Accept them as from the hand of God in order to crucify SELF.

Receive these negative issues with CHEERFULNESS.

  1. The natural man is crucified on the cross and now you proceed to a life in union withGod and your spouse.

There should be harmony between your will and Gods divine will which results in becoming ONE.

The Apostle Paul said, “I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me.”

Don’t think you can react to your spouse anyway you want and advance in your relationship with God.

You don’t advance in Christ till your soul is transformed.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be successful.

THE MAN WILL NOT REST

2 Jan

THE MAN WILL NOT REST

AS A STRANGER in a strange land, Ruth could not have known much about life in Israel.

So at the beginning of her short courtship with Boaz, she had little idea of what to expect.

She must have felt unsure, uneasy, and more than a little frightened.

Yet from the very beginning, Boaz demonstrated himself to be a godly man of strong character who would certainly keep his word, whatever it was.

When marriage to him became a distinct possibility, it must have reassured her to hear Naomi say, “The man will not rest until he has concluded the matter this day” (Ruth 3:18).

What Boaz said he would do, he would most certainly do.

A woman needs to feel her husband’s covenantal commitment to stay married and to love her and accept her.

Then she feels safe to give him the gift of who she is.

Every wife needs to know that romantic intimacy is just between her and her husband, and that he will not share any personal details with his friends.

Apparently that described Ruth, for after watching Boaz in many contexts, she could marry this man with a strong sense of both contentment and security.

NOTE:  This article came from Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis & Barbara Rainey.

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TRY IT FOR A WEEK

1 Jan

TRY IT FOR A WEEK

Remember how much you and your wife talked when you were dating?

Do you recall how polite you were, how respectful of her feelings, how eager to please and delight?

Why not try that for a week?

What kind of things did you talk about when you were dating?

Probably not about diapers or budgets or household chores or the cost of groceries.

Try to mentally reconstruct some of your most enjoyable conversations, and then use those topics for some freshly stimulating dialogues.

What did you do to show her the meaning of polite?

Did you open the car door for her?

Invite her to go first?

Allow her to finish a thought before you shared your own perspective?

Make a list of all the things you did to show her what a gentlemen you were, and do them again.

How did you get her to laugh?

What especially pleased her?

How did you demonstrate your concern for her feelings?

Whatever you did, do it again, for a solid week…and then watch what happens.

NOTE:  This article was taken from Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis & Barbara Rainey.

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ARISE WOMAN OF GOD

31 Dec
woman

ARISE WOMAN OF GOD

NOTE:  Read this with an attitude of conquering and completing what you were made to do.

Rise up O woman of God

in what He has given you

The things God has laid on your heart

Rise up,  go forth, and do

Unlock, what God has placed within

The potential you have inside

The world is waiting for your release

To expand your wings and fly

Arise in your God-given gifts

For this is your finest hour

Arise in this Lord’s holy might

Ignited and empowered

For God is calling you to come forth

To impact this world for Him

Don’t hold back or limit yourself

Let His power arise within

And take His message to the world

To those that have lost their way

For you can surely make a difference

If you’d hear His voice and obey

You shall be strengthened in the Lord

As you begin to arise

Conquering those doubts that pull you down

And believe who you are in Christ

For you shall surely be transformed

As, in you, God increases more

And become a woman of true excellence

Bringing honor to her Lord.

This poem is: by Author M.S. Lowndes, Copyright Of © M.S.Lowndes Site Owner Of Heavens Inspirations 2003-2013

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

ARE YOU A WIFEZILLA?

30 Dec

ARE YOU A WIFEZILLA?

Even though every bride prepares her wedding plans and tries to avoid any problems, it doesn’t always turn out the way she desires.

In Isaiah, the verse expresses the anticipation of the bride as she prepares herself and puts on the FINEST of finishing touches.

Isa.61:10 “I will greatly rejoice in the Lord,

My soul shall be joyful in my God;

For He has clothed me with the Garments of salvation,

He has covered me with the robe of Righteousness,

As a bridegroom decks himself with Ornaments,

And as a bride adorns herself with Her jewels.

Every bride has a story that happened on her wedding day that caused her to be a “bridezilla.”

CASE AND POINT:  I have two stories that happened on my wedding day.  We were married in 1969 when girls wore thick false eyelashes.  On the morning of my wedding, I had my eyelashes on the counter ready to put on, my maid of honor was so nervous, she got glue all over my eyelashes and I could not get it off.  I was so mad at her and she was upset that I wasn’t a nervous wreck like her.  It was so funny, not then but now.  The second thing was that my dad never showed up to give me away.  He had left my mom when I was 13 years old.  This was almost seven year later, and he told me he would be there.  After waiting for him, the priest said we had to start the ceremony or not get married.  I asked my younger brother to walk me down the aisle.  I know that incident sounds somewhat tragic but I was just so excited to be marrying the best man in the world.  I was the happiest girl alive that day!

On a brides wedding day, she thinks nothing will ever happen to separate her from her spouse.

You feel like no matter what problems come your way, you will make it through because of the LOVE you have for each other.

Statistics show that 50% of first time marriages don’t make it past the first five years.

What happens when a wife becomes a “wifezilla” after the wedding is over?

This can happen real quick!

Do you let the CHILDREN get in the way of your marriage?

Most couples divorce over finances.

Do you find yourself FIGHTING over finances?

Eph.5:33 “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

This verse in Ephesians is Gods marriage treaty.

Husbands are to LOVE their wives and wives are to respect their husbands.

There is a book called “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerich, that dissects this verse.

This book explains about the “Crazy Cycle.”

When the wife doesn’t want to “respect” her husband, then he doesn’t want to show her “love” by doing the things she wants.

This cycle goes on and on while the marriage goes no where and no one is happy or satisfied.

This is not Gods PLAN for a godly marriage.

Get off the “wifezilla” list because it is time to show the maturity of Christ in your life and in your marriage.

Put on your bridal jewels and show your husband that you are a woman to be cherished!

“I am my beloved’s.”  Song of Solomon 7:10 KJV

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be a success.

YOUR LIFE IS YOUR WORLD SERIES

29 Dec
world series

YOUR LIFE IS YOUR WORLD SERIES

According to God’s word, in order to be blessed, you must have a pure heart.

Matt.5:8  “Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.”

What is considered an impure heart?

A “pure heart” is a heart and mind that is clean.

You or I would be upset if we went to buy a coke and they would put it in a dirty cup yet we allow impurities to stay in our heart.

CASE AND POINT:  The City of Long Beach has passed a bill so that they no longer put your purchases in plastic bags.  If you want a paper bag for something you have purchased, you need to pay for it.  I find that very disturbing because this city is so interested in saving our planet from plastic yet we allow abortion clinics that kill our babies.  No one is interested in saving our babies from being brutally murdered in the womb.

We are living in a society that has an “impure heart” yet the live day to day as if everyone is entitled to live their life with no restrictions.

First, a covetous heart is an “impure heart.”

In 1Tim.6:10 covetousness is “…the root of all evil…”

I remember hearing a priest saying that in all the years he has been hearing confessions, that he has never heard anyone confess being covetous.

In the ten commandments God names an array of things we are not to covet.

That tells me than coveting is happening, but we are in denial.

As a spouse, we often see what other partners are doing for their spouse and we feel cheated.

The devil lies to us and tells us we deserve a better life.

This is the spark that leads to covet and ends in a “firey divorce.”

Second, a heart that feels it doesn’t need purity is an “impure heart.

Rev.3:17 “…I am rich and have need of nothing…”

This type of person looks at life as if they can do everything on their own and has done everything on their own.

This kind of thinking is insane because God has made all of us to need the help of someone else since birth through death.

If you have the attitude that you don’t need your spouse, you are listening to the wrong voice.

You are rejecting the gift that God has given you.

Third, an ignorant heart is an “impure heart.”

Prov.19:2 “…that the heart be ignorant is not good…”

We have an ignorant heart when we don’t read Gods word.

Scriptures are filled with Godly wisdom so that we will not be ignorant to the devils devices.

You only have one life to live, we need to live it with our eyes opened.

CASE AND POINT:  Every baseball player lives to be lucky enough to go to the world series.  That world series ring means everything to them.

This marital life you are living right now is your “world series.”

Live life big, live it godly.

Live it with a “pure heart!”

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

MY ARM AROUND YOUR SHOULDER

28 Dec

MY ARM AROUND YOUR SHOULDER

It is easy to show mercy to someone who is good to you, but how about showing mercy to someone, as they say in England, who has just “done your head in.”

In the gospel of Matthew we are told if you want mercy from God, you have to show mercy.

Matt.5:7  “Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.”

The word “mercy” means leniency and compassion shown towards offenders by a person charged with administering justice.

Mercy is a “must” to do in your marriage.

What is the difference between love and mercy?

First, love is like a friend that visits you whether you are sick or well.

Second, mercy is like a doctor that visits you only when you are sick.

Mercy gives its help when there is a need.

In Genesis, God sent angels to pull Lot out of Sodom and Gomorrah before he destroyed it by fire.

God’s word says that he was being merciful to Lot to take him out of that immoral city before destruction was sent.

I am sure that Lot was asking God, “Why me, Lord?”  “Why did you save me?”

Spouses, none of us deserves to be where we are today.

Psa.117:2 “For his merciful kindness is great toward us…”

Has God been merciful and kind to you?

Has God been slow to anger about your sins and failures?

Are you merciful toward your spouse when they sin?

How do you treat them when they have failed?

Are you a kind, merciful Christian to your spouse?

Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful” Luke 6:36

Psa. 117:2 “For his merciful kindness is great toward us…”

Do you have family members that you have prayed for their salvation.

Why should God send new converts to you when you cannot show mercy, kindness or grace to the ones that are in your midst now.

First pray for your lack of kindness and mercy towards your spouse.

Do you think that as long as you do not drink, smoke, fornicate or commit adultery that means that you are pure?

The wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.”  Jas.3:17

Are you partial and only show mercy to your spouse when they show mercy to you?

Don’t you hate to be around someone that you know is going to chop you up?

Then why do you do that to your spouse?

How many times has God dug you out of something that could have totally destroyed you?

You can show mercy to your spouse by putting your arm around them, a smile, or a touch.

Maybe you think lecturing them or thrashing them will do good.

If you bask in the comfort thought that God has been merciful to you, you will have an abundance of mercy for your spouse.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be a success.

ARE YOU HUNGRY YET?

27 Dec

ARE YOU HUNGRY YET?

You know that your body depends on food for nourishment and health but your soul longs for heaven.

Your earthly things can’t SUPPORT your soul.

Whether, you are having marital problems or not, stop right now and feed your soul.

Matt.5:6 “Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.”

When those hunger PAINS hit your stomach, you know that you have to get food in you or you die.

Only the Holy Spirit can purify and satisfy your soul when it longs for holiness.

You can always depend on God to SATISFY your craving for him immediately.

Are you satisfied with yourself when you don’t consider your spouses feelings?

Do you know all there is to know about your Lord and savior, so you can act Christ-like in your marriage?

Or do you turn to your CAREER or material things to satisfy you?

There is so much more to learn about the “abundant life.”

John 6:35 “And Jesus said unto them, I am the bread of life: he that cometh to me shall never hunger; and he that believeth on me shall never thirst.”

Jesus says that he is the “bread of life” which is a basic food for living.

Eating is not something that you and I do just once a day.

In the same way, we should be learning and carrying Gods word in our hearts EVERYDAY and all through the day.

In your marriage, a husband is the “head of the household” but the wife is the “manager of the household.”

These are an important responsibility in the “eyes of God.”

It is hard to make righteous decisions without the supernatural guidance of the Holy Spirit.

This is a common TRAP that the enemy uses in marriages.

Sometimes when we ignore the importance of seeking after righteousness, we are like teenagers who think they know more than their parents.

Luke 6:25 “Woe unto you that are full!  For ye shall hunger.  Woe unto you that laugh now!  For ye shall mourn and weep.”

Are you planning your time for your next spiritual meal?

If not, you must plan for that spiritual meal in order to SURVIVE or you will die spiritually!!

CASE AND POINT:  In the 80’s my husband and I were missionaries in England.  One of the times when a team of men came from the states, a comment was made about the Americans from one of the British men.  He said that he could not believe how much Americans love their food.  He said that the Americans hadn’t even finished their meal and they were talking about what they were going to eat for their next meal.  He stated that the British eat just to get it over with.  We were laughing how Americans live to eat!

As a Christian, why can’t we be thirsting for our next encounter with the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.  What a privilege!!

Are you an empty head speaking empty words?

How SAD for your spouse who can’t rely on you to go to for Godly direction or Godly counsel.

Get hungry for God’s knowledge that only He can give to you.

Are you hungry YET?!?

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be a success.