11 Nov



How can we make right decisions if we are ignorant of the facts involved?


That is why when God told us the things that He hates he said a “lying tongue.”

 In Proverbs, God added to that another element of lying.

Prov.6:16-19 “… the Lord hates…a false witness that speaks lies…”

Here we see a specific type of lying—a false witness.

A false witness is a person who commits PERJURY, accusing an innocent person of something that they didn’t do.

Judges make decisions that effect people’s lives–many times dramatically.

If judges receive lies by witnesses, how can they render a JUST decision?

Truthful evidence is what judges depend on to be given to them.

The ninth commandment states ,“You shall not bear false witness.” Ex.20:16

False witness about your spouse has sins that bring strong disapproval:

First, Your words

Speaking things that are not true.

Psa. 12:22 “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord.”

Second, Being a witness

Being a false witness for someone else.

Isa.5:23 “…who acquit the guilty for a bribe, but deny justice to the innocent.”

Third, Swearing to something that isn’t true.

Being a false witness against another.

“Devil is…the accuser of the brethren…”

Have you ever told someone something that your husband did or said but it was not true at all?

Have you ever told a “white lie” to your spouse to cover up for one of your children or siblings?

Have you ever sided against your spouse, swearing that they did something which they were not guilty of?

This type of false witness hurts and offends a minimum of THREE people: the person slandered, the person’s soul who is giving a false report, and the person (or persons) getting the false report.

This is like the venom from a scorpion.

INFORMATION:  There is a dangerous scorpion breed known as “Death Stalker Scorpions.”  This type of scorpion carries the most potent venom.  Androctonus Australis scorpion is the cause of many human deaths.  Most of these fatalities occur in the elderly, the sick, and the youngsters.

When we justify being a false witness about our spouse, we are injecting venom that is carried right into their “life line.”

This will bring death to a marriage faster than you can blink.

False witnessing usually occurs during DIVORCE proceedings.

In Mal.2:16, it is said that divorce bring in a spirit of “violence.”

That means that when you are in a divorce, you will have the temptation to bring a “false witness” against your spouse.

This is a death sentence on all who are involved especially children.

There are NO WINNERS.

Let the Holy Spirit put a guard over your mouth.

Never think because it is your husband that you can do and say what YOU want.

You are to be their “companion”, not their venomous scorpion.

The Holy Spirit desires to do a deep cleaning and restoration in your marriage.

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10 Nov


(The following article was taken from the Family Life Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey)

Early in our marriage, Barbara and I resolved that we would always make decisions together, and if at all possible, we would strive to agree with each other before making an important choice.  The only exception would occur when we reached an impasse after much discussion and prayer.  In that case, I would have the responsibility, as the head of our home, to decide the matter, and whatever happened as a result of following the course of action that I chose, I would assume full responsibility for the outcome.

Some husbands might think (erroneously) that it words best to pull rank with their headship and force their wives to submit to their decisions.  This foolish action violates scripture  and it demeans a wife.  God’s blueprints for marriage teaches that each spouse makes the other complete.  Paul made this very clear, “Neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord.”  (1Cor.11:11). We need each other.

Why would anyone knowingly choose to ignore the other in decision-making?  Two heads really are better than one!  It’s important to realize that she may know something you don’t.  And when is it ever wise to ignore critical information?

On the other hand, some in the Christian community hold that there is no head of the home–a role-less marriage–and that a husband and a wife should share in all decisions equally.  Yet there will be times when you don’t agree, even after days of discussion, prayer, and carefully listening to each other.  In a role-less marriage, who decides, especially on a major decision?

The structure of  responsibility and authority established by God in the home addresses this dilemma.  God’s structure doesn’t limit life for us, but enables us to experience life to the fullest, the way He designed it.  As you will someday experience with your children, structure, boundaries, and rules provide the protection and security that bring freedom, not bondage.

Barbara and I make a lot of decisions every day.  We have learned to consult each other on those decisions where we know that both of us need to talk before making a final decision.  And in that case, as I said, I bear the responsibility for the decision, both the good and the bad.

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9 Nov


Question #1.

What practical steps can we take to make sure busyness doesn’t take a toll on our romantic relationship?

Answer #1.

First, be still and know that He is God (Psa.46:10).  Start by stopping.  Begin by listening.  Take time to pray and listen to God.  And then spend time thinking and evaluating.  Plan a date or two with your husband to reevaluate your schedules, your romance, and your marriage.

Second, decide what you value.  God has made abundantly clear in His Word what He values.  Make a priority list.  What will you fight for, and what will both of you fight for?

Third, set important guidelines for yourself and your family.

Fourth, honestly evaluate your need for all the extra things in life.  I know how easy it is to get busy with fixing my house, getting things for my kids, and finding the best bargain.  It’s not wrong unless it leaves me stressed, exhausted, and unable to engage with my husband.  It’s a question of the important versus the urgent.

Stress and exhaustion in parenting are normal.  While you can’t eliminate them, they can be managed by evaluating your level of busyness and your lifestyle choices.  Simplifying life is the best way to reduce these robbers of romance.

NOTE:  The following question and answer was an article in “Family Life and Marriage Bible” by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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8 Nov


The word “mischief” means a reckless behavior that causes discomfort or annoyance in others.

This kind of behavior is laid out in the bible as something that God hates.

Prov.6:16-18 “…the Lord hates…feet that be swift in running to mischief”

This describes a person who is quick and without forethought to sin.

Prov.1:16 “For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood.”

If your heart is full of mischievous vapors and fumes, the Holy Spirit will be grieved.

This is entering into EVIL with plenty of energy and eagerness.

CASE AND POINT: There is a cartoon called the “roadrunner”.  As kids, everyone loved it because the roadrunner almost always got away.  He out ran Wile E. Coyote.  He would play tricks on the coyote and then take off and was hard to be caught.  The roadrunners feet were so fast that one second he was there and the next he was gone.

Don’t be lured and entrapped into sinful activity against your spouse.

Do you have a heart that is INCLINED toward evil instead to toward God?

Jesus feet literally took Him from town to town to heal and let people know the kingdom of God was available to them.  (Matt.4:23)

If you run to mischief against your spouse, it will give you a temporary high but in the end it will be the beginning of your DESTRUCTION.

The Apostle Paul wrote that Jesus came so that we too would be “zealous to do good deeds.”  (Titus 2:14)

When you are zealous in “good deeds” toward your spouse, this is a way to express your love to God with a whole heart.

God hates feet that run rapidly to evil.

God made your feet so that you would desire to use them to do GOOD deeds towards others, including your spouse.

If you have sinned in the past towards your spouse, then turn away and run away!

Stop the RECKLESS behavior that causes discomfort and annoyances in your household.

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7 Nov



Our God is a God that “hates.”  With God, hate is good.

God hates sin!

In Proverbs and Psalms he lists things he hates.

One of them is in Prov. 6:18 “…the Lord hates…a heart that devises wicked imagination…”

God does watch your heart and your thoughts concerning your spouse.

Remember that the heart is the “command and control” center of a person.

Being caught up in sin “in a moment” is one thing; but it’s another thing when you plot and scheme about what type of wickedness to do to someone.

In the Old Testament, premeditated sins were judged harshly compared to sins committed in the passion of the moment. (Joshua 20).

CASE AND POINT:  There was a story about a wife who ran over her husband’s girlfriend.  This story was all over the news.  What made this story hit all the news stations was the type of woman she was.  She was a wonderful gentle woman.  Everyone who knew her said they had never seen her mad.  She was a very elegant and loving woman.   Well then what happened.  She had been married to her husband for over ten years and had a teenage stepdaughter.  She loved them both and devoted her life to caring for their needs.  She received a call that her husband was having an affair and if she wanted to catch him, she should go to a certain hotel.  The person told her that her husband and his girlfriend had been in the room for quite a while but if she came quickly, she would catch them coming out.  She did not believe it was true but she put her step-daughter in the car and headed for the hotel.  As she pulled into the parking lot, her husband crossed with the girl.  She ran over him twice and killed him with his daughter screaming in the car.  At the trial, her step-daughter testified on her behalf.  She told the court that the woman who ran over her dad in the car is not the woman who her stepmother is.  She told the court that her stepmother was overcome with shock and anger.  The wife cried and said she was so sorry and can’t live with the horror of what she did.  I remember wanting the jury to let her go because I felt many women would have done the same thing under those circumstances.  However, murder is murder and I could not justify it if it were one of my family members.  She was sentenced to prison.

What lowered this woman’s sentence was that she did not premeditate it.

She did not have a history of anger and wicked ACTIONS.

Do you have a history of being angry with your spouse?

Do you pursue things that will be DESTRUCTIVE to your spouse?

Remember that if you do, it will also affect others that are around him.

The outcome will affect you as well.

Jesus’ entire mission was a heart that devised plans that would bring BLESSINGS.

Your mission as a spouse needs to be a heart of love, prayer and encouragement.

God loves a heart that ponders RIGHTEOUSNESS, but he hates a heart that devises wickedness.

Which heart best identifies you as a spouse?


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6 Nov


You are to preserve your life and the life of others including your spouse.

Prov.6:16-17…The Lord hates…hands that shed innocent blood”

Not only does God hate murder but the sixth commandment also commands us not to kill.

Ex.20:13 “Thou shalt not kill…”

Whenever there is a murder, the first suspect is always the spouse.

You might be saying to yourself that you would never physically harm your spouse but we are going to expose sins that LEAD to murder.

First, we must not injure our spouse’s name.

It is a great CRUELTY to murder your spouse’s name.

You injure your spouse when you maliciously slander them.

Psa.35:11 “False witnesses did rise up; they laid to my charge things that I knew not.”

Do you talk about your spouse with your family?

Do you tell his family when you feel he had done something you don’t APPROVE of?

What about when you are at work with co-workers or other friends?

Any BELITTLING of your spouse with others, is murdering their name.

Second, you must not injure them in their body.

God made this command to PRESERVE life.

Gen.9:6 “Whoever  sheds man’s blood, by man shall his blood be shed; for in the image of God made he man.”

God made your spouse for him to enjoy and he has a reason and purpose for his life.

The following is a list of EMOTIONS that lead to murder:

Anger produces murder.

 Jacobs sons Simeon and Levi murdered and it is recorded in the bible for all to read.  Gen.49:6”…In their anger they slew a man…”

Envy produces murder.

In Gal.5:21, the apostle puts envy and murder together.

Satan envied and murdered our first parents.

Envy first begins by being DISCONTENTED against God then ends in injuring man.

Envy is deep rooted and wants blood to be quenched.

Hatred produces murder.

The Pharisees hated Christ because he was more POPULAR among the people.

Haman hated Mordecai because he would not bow to him and wanted to destroy the whole Jewish race.

You can commit murder in many ways:

  • With the hand  2Sam.20:10
  • With the mind  1John 3:15
  • With the tongue  John 18:30
  • With the pen   2Sam.11:15
  • By plotting another’s death  1Kings 21:10
  • Witchcraft   Deut.18:10
  • By having an intention to kill another   Matt.2:8,13
  • By consenting to another’s death   Acts 22:20
  • Unmercifulness   Deut.24:6

Although this has been a gruesome subject, remember that it starts with our mouth.

If you are HARBORING anger, envy or hatred in your heart towards your spouse, this is the time to let it go.

You are killing your marriage.

You can bring LIFE into your marriage by asking the Holy Spirit to give you guidance and direction.

Ask God to forgive you and become the spouse that you and God want you to be.

Take that FIRST step and God will lead you through the rest!

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5 Nov


Studies show that the average person lies several times a day.

In God’s word, He calls lying an ABOMINATION.

In the Greek, an abomination is “something disgusting.”

Prov.6:16-17  These six things the Lord hates…a lying tongue…”

Do you tell your spouse to tell people lies for you like to say that you are not home when you are?

Do you tell “little white lies” just to keep yourself out of trouble?

Do you exaggerate to your spouse things you have heard?

80% of people are not truthful.

The Bible is the measuring tape we must use to determine truth.

In Col.3:9, the word “lie”, in the Greek is talking about any type of falsehood.

In every instance where the word pseudo (lying) is used, it carries the idea of someone who misrepresents who he is by what he does and by what he says.

Is lying to your spouse something that you commonly do?

These believers in the New Testament STRUGGLED with lying.

Each and every one of us have had at some time or another been tempted to lie to our spouse.

Truthfulness is the FOUNDATION to a successful marital relationship.

Quit telling yourself that you are just exaggerating a little!

Lying is an ugly EVIL!!

The bible tells us that the devil is the “father of all lies.”

The devil is behind all lies and God commands us not to lie to our spouse.

Examine yourself to see if you are not INFECTED with the disease of falsehood before you point your finger at someone else.

If you don’t keep your word, you are guilty of lying.

Rom.12:17-21 “Recompense to no man evil for evil.  Provide things honest in the sight of all men.  If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.”

FEAR and PRIDE are many times why we lie.

First, we are afraid of the consequences we will suffer if we tell the truth.

If we YIELD to fear, then we are showing God that we do not trust him.

Second, we are prideful and concerned about what men will say about us.

We often lie because we want the APPROVAL of man.

The bible tells us that out of a man’s mouth will come out what is in his heart.

Matt..15:18  “Those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart.”

It is a very serious matter with God when we lie to our spouse.

Don’t act like it’s not a “big deal” and you can lie to your spouse.


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