18 Mar




Prov.25:11  “The right word at the right time is like golden apples in silver jewelry.”  (NIRV)

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs suggests in his book “Love & Respect”, that we send our husbands a RESPECT CARD.

He states that through his research, men seldom keep cards from their wives that say she loves him and has hearts with Xs, and Os.

He said not to sign it, “I Love You”, because your husband knows that you love him.  He says to sign it “With All My Respect.”

He claims that your husband will keep that card FOREVER.

Why?  Because you are now speaking his language, RESPECT, and for him, that is very powerful.

I will go over the six concepts that will let him know how important and vital he is to you.  Ask yourself these questions then use your answers to express your appreciation to him.  Make it personal.

  1. CONQUEST – Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.
  2. HIERARCHY – Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.
  3. AUTHORITY – Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.
  4. INSIGHT – Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.
  5. RELATIONSHIP – Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.
  6. SEXUALITY – Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

Prov.12:4  “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown”  (NIV)

I remember helping a female relative through some tough times in her life.  It didn’t cost me a thing, I just encouraged her, called her on occasion, and let her know I was available for her and her family.  Years later, I saw her at a family function where she told me she had always wanted to send me a letter of thanks.  Obviously, I told her that was not necessary.  Years after that she sent me a letter.  She was very specific in how she felt.  I remember the words stating that I was like a sister to her at her time of need and that she will never forget it.  I don’t have a sister, so that letter meant quite a bit to me.  I have kept the card and letter.

You may have already decided that you are not going to participate in this assignment.

Maybe you feel, well I’m not going to do something that isn’t coming from my heart just cause everyone else will do it.

Sad to say, but your husband probably already realizes that you try harder to impress strangers than you try to impress him, the man who is suppose to be the most important person in your life.

Prov.31:11-12 “The heart of her husband doth safely TRUST in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  She will do him GOOD and not evil ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE.”

Your husband only has YOU!!!  HE ONLY HAS HIS WIFE.

No one else has the privilege to send him a RESPECT CARD, only you.

NOTE:  Don’t miss tomorrows post!!  Saturday Questions & Answers

6 Responses to “A CARD HE’LL KEEP FOREVER!”

  1. Naomie Watson Millerden March 18, 2011 at 6:38 am #

    Hello Sister Nancy,
    First of all I would like to tell you how much I appreciate this marriage blog you started, my mom recommended I join and I am so glad I did because it has saved my life!!
    Our curch has just gone through a spiritual massacre by our Pastor, which has devestated everyone from leaders to church goers, my husband in paticular. My husband has been with this man for over 14 years, has been loyal to him and followed him from Arizona, to Blythe all the way to where we are at at this present time in the city of Hemet. I am an impatient individual by nature, so my first reaction was to say tell my husband see I toldyou something was up and to harrass him to huury up and leave the church, but because of your blog God brought back all the different ones I read and challanged me to step back and let my husband be the head of household and to trust that I married a man of God that hears from him! I did just that and because of my choice God did speak to my husband and confirming what I heard, standing for righteousness we are now asking God to guide ur steps as we are looking for a new church. So I owe you my thanks sister Nancy and I look forward to reading more of theses!
    God Bless!!

    • nancysalazar March 18, 2011 at 8:32 am #

      Hi Naomi! Thank you so much. Your comment will help many wives. Just today I got a letter from someone begging New Harvest to put a church in Hemet. Her and her family came here 10 years ago and she loves our New Harvest churches. I am so glad that God is with you guiding you and teaching you along with the rest of us. Keep up the good work of being the wife that God has called you to be. Doesn’t it feel great when you hold back and let the Holy Spirit do your talking. It’s hard, but it turns out so much better. Love you and Miss you a whole bunch!!

  2. Andrea Gil March 18, 2011 at 8:45 am #

    Such a powerful insight! Thank you sister Nancy. I am very blessed to have a man who loves God and loves his family. And I want to always be an encouagement to him and to let him know i do respect him. and i will do just that!! A card for my husband! I dont want to wait for things to get bad before i make an effort and this guidence is just what i need. I want to always bring my husband joy and let him lead his family!! I cant thank you enough for your teaching!!

    • nancysalazar March 18, 2011 at 9:01 am #

      Hi Andrea!

      Thanks for your excellent comment. Your attitude is right on track. Your husband has a very wise wife. That is exactly what you want to accomplish. Don’t let the devils devices in your marriage. You are nipping it at the bud! I pray that other women follow your lead!

  3. belinda March 19, 2011 at 11:38 am #

    Awesome blog! I am doing my card right now!

    • nancysalazar March 19, 2011 at 2:15 pm #

      Hi Belinda! You go girl!! I pray that for every card or letter given to a husband, that God equally rewards that wife. If I might add, I AM ONE VERY REWARDED WIFE!!! ;-))

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