24 Feb


Yesterday we covered one of the top three needs in a husbands life.  The first one we discussed was respect.

In Dr. Kevin Leman’s book,  he has researched and discusses what they are.

As of yesterday, I hope you started working on RESPECT.

We have the opportunity every day to meet these needs, but ARE WE?

The second is TO BE NEEDED.

God put something in a husbands heart so that he is compelled to nourish, care, and protect his wife.

Eph.5:28-29 “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies, he who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.”

In the Greek, that word nourish is pronounced ek-tref-o which means “to train up to be mature.”

The word cherish in the Greek means to warmly hover over.”

Your husband needs to do this for you and the children in order to fulfill his part in protecting his home.

Can I hit you with a question right here?

What happens when an issue comes up concerning your children?  When it starts to get heated.  Do you tell your husband to stay out of it because you are going to have the last word in this?  Do you have your neck movement going on?  Is your voice getting higher?  Did you just dethrone him in front of the family?  Is he not just as upset as you are and he wants the final say also?


Men have fewer friends and usually don’t have best friends.

For that reason, the one your husband thinks about and cares most about is YOU!

Girls have their moms, sisters, cousins, friends, best friend, neighbors and anyone else that will listen to her “run her mouth.”

When he hears you tell him how much you need him, it causes him to feel “warm and fuzzy.”

Do men feel “warm and fuzzy”? I don’t know.  I assume so.

Maybe I should have said, “MACHO”!?!    Okay, MACHO!!

You are much HIGHER in your husbands thoughts than you think.

You think he is only interested in succeeding at work with raises, promotions, and recognitions.

Where he really wants to succeed  is AT HOME.

He needs to hear in your words and see in your actions, that he is your HERO.

BRAG about him.  Yes, BRAG!! As they say in England, “Have a go.”  Don’t treat him like I don’t really need you.

Most husbands will be loyal to the end if you respect him and show him that you need him.

YOU GO GIRL!!   Just have fun today!!

NOTE:  Don’t miss tomorrow. We will finally find out what all three needs are.

4 Responses to “YOUR HUSBANDS TOP THREE NEEDS (continued)”

  1. CHell torres February 24, 2011 at 8:26 am #

    i love these and really have help me and gave me an understanding i never had before… These r awesome… Its crazy how these things r so simple to do but we dont do them or not as often as we should… Its like we do all these when we first get with the guy but as the years pass we are like what happen? And think its his fault when we stop showing him that respect and nedding him like before… Dont wanna try to guess the next one but i sure cant wait…

    • nancysalazar February 24, 2011 at 5:07 pm #

      I really appreciate your comment. You spoke so much truth. It’s never to late to make a turn around. Thank God he gives us a new day every day to do it right. Make your marriage the “light on a hill”. You have been an encoouragement to hundreds of women today.

  2. Lydia Barraza February 24, 2011 at 12:36 pm #

    Hi Sister Nancy – just want to really thank you for this blog and for pushing me this morning to seek it out…. Today is the first day I was able to actually read your blog….I sat during my lunch and caught up with all your previous lessons… and all I can say is AMAZING!!!! You are so awesome!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I know your wisdom will carry my marriage another 27 years as long as I continue to follow your advice and obey Gods word. Thank you again for all your time and effort you put into all of our marriages.

    • nancysalazar February 24, 2011 at 5:11 pm #

      Thank you Lydia. You have been such an inspiration to me and many women as you stood focused on God and kept fighting through. Great is your reward in heaven!!

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