23 Feb




In Dr. Kevin Leman’s book, he asked wives what they thought was the number one need in a mans life and got an array of interesting answers.

They were answers like food, remote control and sex.

Fortunately the top three needs have everything to do with his wife

This gives the wife the opportunity every day to meet these needs, but DO WE?

The first:   RESPECT

In Eph.5:33, it is the marriage treatise and one of the best scriptures on marriage.

Eph.5:33 “…let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

In the Greek, the word is pronounced fob-eh’-o.  It means to be in awe, reverence or to fear.

The important thing about this verse is that the wife and husband have to do it UNCONDITIONALLY.

No matter what the other partner does, they have to commit themselves to God by doing their part.

It can only work if it is unconditional.

This is long-term so we need to realize it is a marriage marathon.

When your husband isn’t respected, he will never by convinced that you love him.

He feels unloved !!

If he feels disrespected, he will go to other avenues to find respect. 

He may become very quiet, may be bury himself in his work, or find reasons to not come home.

There will no longer be any reason to build a relationship.



Here are some suggestions:

1.  SMILE at him.

2.  SAY HELLO when he comes home.

3.  Don’t start COMPLAINING about things.

4.  Let him sit on his favorite chair and go into his NOTHING BOX.

5.  Don’t give him a LOOK when he has said or done something wrong.

6.  Don’t DISRESPECT his family.  He loves them.

7.  Don’t YELL at him.

8.  Let him SPEND money.  He’s not in kindergarten and he worked for it.

9.  Don’t BELITTLE him for the things he enjoys.

10. Don’t criticize him.

11. Did I leave anything out?


R  E  S  P  E  C  T    H  I  M !!   God gave you to him for support.


NOTE:  Don’t miss tomorrow!  You will find out what your husbands second need is.


  1. Angel Atilano February 23, 2011 at 8:01 am #

    Easier said than done? Maybe? But it is soooo worth the effort and I thank you for reminding me just how important these actions on my part are! Its these small acts that make huge impact and we as wives do set the atmosphere in our home. I love how you broke it down like that so simple yet so challenging. This blog is helping me so much already! Thank you!!

    • Nancy Salazar February 23, 2011 at 2:24 pm #

      Love your comment Angel. You spoke with much wisdom. Thanks for your contribution. It will encourage other wives.

  2. Rachel Jimenez February 23, 2011 at 10:31 am #

    Hmmmm, well, I can honestly say I am good at 3/10. So, if this were a test, I would score 30%…. FAIL! Ouch! I was always the straight-A student, taking so much time to make sure I did my best. And, yet, here I am “failing” in the things God wants from me. Okay, time to get to work! I want to be a 100% wife!!

    • Nancy Salazar February 23, 2011 at 2:27 pm #

      Wow! Now I’m convicted! I better take my score. Anyone want to join us? You brought it home! Good thinking!!

  3. Monique Brown February 23, 2011 at 10:40 am #

    Thank you Sis Nancy.. this is JUST what I needed to be reminded of this morning!

    • Nancy Salazar February 23, 2011 at 2:29 pm #

      Thanks for your comment Monique. When ever we think we’ve attained, there is another hurdle to jump. That is what I love about God, he stretches us to perfection.

  4. juanita martinez February 23, 2011 at 1:13 pm #

    im not married but i have been wit my boyfriend for 13 years now..we have 4 children..

    • Nancy Salazar February 23, 2011 at 2:35 pm #

      Well, I tip my hat to you raising four children. I raised three and only Gods word and his precious Holy Spirit got me through it. If they are his children, tell him you want to make it right before Gods eyes through marriage. Tell him you want to raise Godly children and reap eternal blessings. There are thousands of women now reading this blog. We will all be praying for you through this process. You are not alone!!

  5. Jocelyn Udell February 24, 2011 at 2:48 pm #

    Wow im super convicted and I too completely failed! Thank God that every breath is a second chance & i get my 2nd chance starting tonight!

    • Nancy Salazar February 24, 2011 at 5:47 pm #

      Yes. You put it beautifully!! Stay focused and keep going. You are doing a great job Joy. I am very proud of you!

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