19 Sep


Your marriage cannot survive without flexibility because it does not allow your spouse to have freedom of expression.

Flexibility is a MUST for every marriage.

In the world, the United States has the highest divorce rate and the women file for divorce twice as much as the men.

One of the reasons is that many women are STUBBORN and demand their own way.

The word “stubborn” appears 28 times in the bible and the word “stiff-necked” about 19 times.   Stiff-necked also means stubborn.

Until stubbornness is overcome, your marital relationship will suffer.

“…stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.  Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD… “  1SAM.15:23

In God’s eyes, a stubborn wife is as guilty as anyone who worships Satan.

If you are being narrow minded, you are having YOUR own way without regard to your spouse’s ideas or feelings.

Wives, be careful to make sure you are obeying your husband, whether he is right and spiritual or not.

Divorce is an epidemic and STUBBORNNESS is an issue of the heart.

Jer.17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure.”

The bible warns that being inflexible to your spouse is folly.

Do you see your IDEAS from their perspective?

Can you listen to your spouses remedies to solve problems in a new and  different way?

Do you ever let your spouse know that you appreciate and understand their VIEWPOINT?

How can you arrive at an agreement or judgment if you have an inflexible perspective.

Is your thinking, attitude and perspective RIGID?

You are leaving your spouse with a feeling of rejection when you say, “I am right and you are wrong.”

The stress you experience in your life is due to inflexibility and your inability to accept change.

When you are flexible you will experience many twists and turns, ups and downs, and uncertainties.

CASE AND POINT:  When my husband and I were asked to be missionaries in England during the early 80’s it was spiritually dead.  We gave up our house, business, furniture along with friends and family to be in the will of God.  Anything and everything we owned had to fit into four suitcases.  As we sat on the plane headed for Manchester, I turned to my husband and asked him what his plan was for building a church in England.  I had given up all my Tupperware and expensive pots and pans we had received as marriage gifts so I was expecting a divine plan to come out of his mouth.  Lol!!  This was his response, “I don’t have a plan.  We will get there and see what happens.”  At that moment I spiritually matured about 40 years.  My spiritual hair turned gray.  I realized I had to be flexible and trust in God.  It worked.  It was definitely one of the highlights of my spiritual life.  I thank God everyday that my husband was sensitive to the Holy Spirit and flexible enough to give up his life to go.

To be flexible, there must be a willingness to take RISKS.

Life is not about survival but about enjoyment in the Holy Ghost.

Your spouse’s different opinion does not make them the ENEMY.

A different opinion is a source of wisdom, knowledge, understanding and the power of the Holy Spirit.

Flexibility is the GIFT that keeps on giving.

Your marriage is worth it.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage survive.


  1. nancysalazar October 29, 2015 at 6:45 pm #

    Hi Olakulehin! Thanks for your comment! It is best for you to talk with your pastors. He will be able to give you the guidance that you need. It is a simple problem that can be overcome as long as you both work together to overcome it. Your marriage is extremely important to God!

  2. nancysalazar November 27, 2015 at 10:32 am #

    Hi C! Thank you so much for your comment!! No one can take away the memories of all the hurts you have gone through in your marriage. One of the blessings in life is that every day is a new day! The enemy is definitely lying to your husband and that is why he doesn’t go to church anymore. You must find JOY in Christ and guidance in the Holy Spirit! Because of the “scars on life” God can use you in so many ways to encourage other women. Nothing we go through here on earth is in vain. I look at the women in my church who have battled through their marriage and they are my examples. Stay on course! God will be glorified through your testimony! Great are your rewards!

  3. nancysalazar November 27, 2015 at 10:33 am #

    Hi Ali! What is MUTi?

  4. Audrey February 8, 2016 at 2:17 pm #

    Omg…love the wisdom I received from this reading…
    Life changing. ..
    Life enhancing. ..
    Blessed for it. ..

  5. Donovan van der haar June 12, 2016 at 4:47 am #

    Please send me. A daily post to help me get my wife back

    • nancysalazar June 12, 2016 at 8:19 pm #

      Hi Donovan van der haar! Thanks so much for your comment! Go back into the website and subscribe to the blog and you will get the new post everyday. The other way is that I try to post it on my Facebook everyday but sometimes I miss. It’s better to subscribe from the blog.

  6. Godwin March 14, 2017 at 3:06 pm #

    This so true especially with our ladies. Hope God helps those who are stubborn to repent and enjoy bliss in their union.

    • nancysalazar June 7, 2017 at 6:44 pm #

      Hi Godwin! Thanks so much for your excellent comment! Both genders allow the enemy to deceive them. He twists the truth and causes us to react to his lies. We need to fight for our marriages and we do that with prayer and God’s word. LOVE covers a multitude of sin. Love your spouse more than your own bodies.!!!

  7. Agu Michael May 17, 2017 at 6:23 pm #

    Sincerely, I’m pleased with details of your talented posts, It is a great thing that have inspired me to make amendments in my faulty marriage, tnx.

    • nancysalazar June 24, 2017 at 8:40 pm #

      Hi Agu Michael Thank you so much for your great comment! God is there to help all of us with our marriage. He has promised that He will not leave us alone. He has given us a helper which is His Holy Spirit. He is our guide and we need him because only God knows what our spouse needs. Have a blessed marriage and never stop working on your marriage. Humility is the secret to an abundant marriage!

  8. Rose Alaniz August 3, 2017 at 7:57 am #

    Sister Nancy I am so inspired by your emails everyday and although I am new to them I look forward to them every morning. I’ve been going back and reading your past post and this one about “Stiff necked” hit a nerve like no other and I have to admit is shamefully me. Mt husband and I of 32 years joke about how stubborn I am but after reading this I am looking at it in a different way. You’ve helped me in so many ways in learning to be submissive to my husband like the Bible tells us to be. After reading that stubborn is described as an idolatry like Satan scares me. I definitely will be working on this one and will keep praying to keep my marriage strong. Thank you.

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