Why in the World did I Marry My Spouse?

18 Feb

Why in the World Did I Marry My Spouse?

When Problems come into a marriage, the first thing that happens is that we get attacked in our mind. The evil one tells us that we are better off divorced. Then the BIG QUESTION comes. Why did I marry my spouse?

The Answer is clear in Gods word.

Mal. 2:15 “But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let not deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.”

The word “seek” in Hebrew is baqash.  The primitive root word is to search.  It implies begging.  This is killing me as I am typing it.  God is begging us to raise our kids Godly? 

God makes man and woman one so they will marry and raise godly children.

Sad to say, with 50% of marriages ending in divorce, the children are thrown into a traumatic situation.

In the book “Helping children survive divorce” by Dr. Archibald D. Hart, it states that children of divorced Christian parents are at greater risk than others.

They feel like why didn’t God make my mom and dad love each other?  The child could easily become disillusioned with Christianity.

This is a list of a few losses that children face:

1. Loss of home.

2. Loss of my neighborhood friends.

3. Loss of convenient transportation.

4. Dramatic reduction in our standard of living.

5. Loss of family outings together.

Divorce makes enemies of those who once declared undying love for one another. It does damage to children.

Here are some of the reasons why divorce is emotionally damaging to children:

1. Fear and anxiety

2. Abandonment and rejection

3. Aloneness and sadness

4. Frustration and anger

5. Rejection and resentment, and

6. Reestablishment of trust

Before we think it is all about us and forget if we divorce, our child will be another statistic.  So turn to Gods word for counsel.

Eph. 5:33 “Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

In the book called “Love and Respect”, the author calls this the crazy cycle. That is because neither partner will do their part till the other one does. Then they just go around and around on the “crazy cycle”.

It only takes one person to do their part and get off the “crazy cycle”.

You married him to show him love and respect in front of your children and the children of others.

You are to be a living epistle to your children and raise them godly.


4 Responses to “Why in the World did I Marry My Spouse?”

  1. Pastor Nehemiah Gallardo February 18, 2011 at 2:28 pm #

    Hi Sister Nancy. Thanks for today’s post.

    As I’m getting older and so are my children(with another on the way) I am becoming more aware that my life is no longer about my selfish wants and desire’s but more centered around what I leave for my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren(both physically and even more so, spiritually). I believe it’s a maturity taking place that can only come by the Holy Spirit. Especially when our surroundings and the spirit of this age tell us the complete opposite. I would love to hear more about this subject whenever you have time? Thanks a bunch!

    • nancysalazar February 18, 2011 at 4:16 pm #

      Yes, it is a very good subject and I will address it in length at another time. You are correct that it is a sign of maturity but we always have to have our motives funneled by the Holy Spirit. We could desire our biological children to do well out of vanity. We could want our spiritual children to do well out of pride. It’s all about dying to our flesh. Everyday we are confronted to focus on our flesh or our spirit. Watchman Nee has good books on that. Jesus is our example, the Holy Spirit is our guide. The challenge is to stay focused and keep going forward. The devil has many devices to entice us, Jesus has His love. You have done excellent with what God has given you. The host in heaven are cheering you on!

  2. Kristen Armendariz February 21, 2011 at 7:50 pm #

    SUCH A POWERFUL STATEMENT: Jesus is our example, the Holy Spirit is our guide. The challenge is to stay focused and keep going forward. The devil has many devices to entice us, Jesus has His love. Thank you for this daily encouragement. We are enjoying our journey!

    • nancysalazar February 21, 2011 at 9:02 pm #

      Thanks for the comment Kristen. Appreciate your input.

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