19 Feb

Q&A – Question and Answer Saturday

Welcome aboard!  Every Saturday will be reserved for answering marriage questions.  Before I start, I want to thank you so much for being a part of  MARRIAGE MATTERS.  I would like to give you a peek into my heart and thoughts.

Divorce is traumatizing to a child and they are impacted for the rest of their life.  Gods design is for a child to be raised by adoring parents.  God can fill the void in a child’s life, but they are still left with scars.

What I hope to accomplish, with God leading the way, is to give spouses insight to the devils devices. More importantly is for us to partner with the Holy Spirit and receive help from on high. Also, to keep children from suffering the struggles of a violent divorce.

Inspire others to subscribe to this blog at no charge and God will bless you hundredfold because there is no limit to how far Gods word can reach.  HELPING MARRIAGES TO LAST A LIFETIME!!

Question and answers

Question #1  How do you build a relationship when you are states away?

     Answer #1:  I am assuming that you are married.  If you are not married, I would not advise it.  It’s hard to really get to know the person.  Everyone is palatable in small doses.  It’s during the long haul that issues start to appear.  If you are married, there are a lot of things you can and cannot do.  Today through social networking, you can keep communication going like never before.  Be on guard of the conversation.  Wives have a tendency to complain.  Before you talk to him, have an agenda of what you will discuss.  Make sure it is things he will enjoy.  Tell him the cute things his children are doing, not about the crummy co-worker you cannot stand.  Tell him about something interesting on the news, not about what broke in the house and how he needs to make several repairs as soon as he gets back.  Tell him a crazy joke you heard today.  Make him laugh!  Make him feel like he can’t wait till he talks to you again.  Give your list of complaints and your “honey do list” to your pet dog. 

Question #2  What are the downsides in marrying someone younger than you? 

     Answer #2  There aren’t any if you love God and partner with the Holy Spirit to have a Godly marriage and raise godly children.  That should keep any couple busy for a lifetime.  We have found through the years that if the husband is younger by 5 years of more, many times the wife has to deal with jealousy.  It isn’t the husbands problem, it’s the wifes.  She is the one who battles with her own thoughts.  The husband is usually completely pleased with her except for the insane jealousy.  When the husband is older by 10 years or more, the wife once again, has a tendency to struggle with it.  She expects a lot from him and seems to think his age is the reason for his actions.  Usually it is her who is not accepting him for who he is.  She becomes demanding and becomes frustrated.  This is what we have observed through the years of pastoring.  Since woman are supposed to out live men by approximately 10 years, they say it is fine for a woman to marry a man ten years younger than her.  My husband and I are 6 months apart. I recommend that since we are getting ready to celebrate our 42nd anniversary.  lol!!  



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  1. Woody Rojas February 19, 2011 at 1:47 pm #

    Awesome Post’s Sister Nancy. I have been enjoying them. Also its awesome to get to know your thoughts and who you are. I believe this is important, because growing up in New Harvest I have known about you and Pastor Salazar, Of course I have heard Pastor preach, but now we get an insight on you. This is awesome I appreciate you taking time to impart to us. How or where do we submit questions for Question and answer saturday?

    once again thank you for your posts!

    • nancysalazar February 19, 2011 at 2:54 pm #

      Thanks so much for your comment. I really appreciate that. We are trying to encourage as many marriages as we can. With the help of the Holy Spirit, we will accomplish it. To ask a question, at the right hand top of the blog, there is a box that says, “Ask a question?” It was just set up right now. It wasn’t there when you put in your comment. I don’t want you to think you missed seeing it. lol. Just click on that and you can ask your question. Have a blessed eve.

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