LOVE YOUR SPOUSE

Question #1.   What are some ways to encourage your husband?

Answer #1  I am not sure if you mean spiritually or as a husband.  The best thing that you can do is to pray for him.  On Sunday Feb.20th, we have an article that is on 31 days of how to pray for your husband.  It’s great cause it has a prayer for each day of the month.  I will give you five other verses of what the bible says we can do.

Gentle and quiet spirit:  It’s best not to say anything and just be quiet.  1Pet.3:1-5

Trust:  Trust God that he will do the work in your spouse.  Prov.31:11

Goodness:  Be good to him and show him love.  Prov.31:12

Praise:  Don’t embarrass him and brag about him.  Prov.31:23

Kindness and wisdom:  Be kind and use wisdom  Prov.31:26

Question #2.  How do you stay in love with your husband, even when times are hard?

Answer #2  This is a question that most women ask.  First you need to read the love chapter which is 1Cor.13.  Read it till you have it in your heart.

Remember that as you draw closer to God and the more you fall in love with him, it will cause you to fall in love with your spouse even more.  This is what you need to concentrate on. 

Put the Holy Spirit in the middle of your heart and your marriage.  This will cause you not to hurt the Holy Spirit and make you want to act in a loving way.  I try to act in a way that is pleasing to God, not in a manner to get my way. 

ASSIGNMENT:  I tell the wives in my marriage class to think of one thing their husbands do that really makes them mad.  Just one thing.  Wives usually tell me they have one hundred things.  Don’t tell anyone what it is that gets you the madest.  Don’t even tell your husband.  Take that thing and give it to God.  Every time he does it, give it to God.  It won’t be easy but do it.  Just keep your mouth closed, smile and trust God.

You will be shocked how God will intervene on your behalf.  It may take a while but make a committment to trust God and be patient.

Usually the things our husbands do over and over again are what causes a wife to get drained from her love. Be consistent and wait for your miracle.

The things that would upset me for days, have zero effect on me now. 

It feels so good to know that there is really nothing that can get me mad anymore. 

I can be in complete control but it’s my choice to obey my emotions or allow the Holy Spirit to get the glory.

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AND DON’T COME BACK NO MORE!   Okay.  I got it out of my system.

Who am I talking to??????   Not my Husband!!   The devil.

Malachi 2:11b “For Judah has profaned the Lord’s holy institution which He loves…”

This is a fabulous scripture that gives us loads of insight.  God loves your marriage.

He is saying that your marriage is His.  It belongs to Him.  It is his holy institution!

The word “holiness” in Hebrew is qodesh. This means that it is a consecrated, dedicated, sacred place.

Anything that is “holy” is set apart.

In God’s word we see that anything that is holy, is under attack.

That is why wives must be watchmen.  We SUPER CHARGE our man!

Case & Point:  Every time we get a new car, my husband treats it like a “sacred cow”.  Lol!! (I’m exaggerating)  We haven’t got a brand new car in decades.  They are always 1 to 2 years old.  He is gifted in buying cars.  They are always in perfect condition with low miles.  They are always priced one to two years cheaper.  Nevertheless he treats it like it just got off the assembly line.  You are afraid to burp in his  car.  Unfortunately I always initiate the car by banging the car next to us with the door while getting out.  I don’t even want to look his way after doing that .  I know it just isn’t the time for me to be searching for an endearing look from him.

How much more does God care for us and each member of our family that make up this “holy institution”.

God watches it with intense love and desires to help us through each issue if we only ask Him.

Proverbs 19:14 :Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”

Here we see two blessings for a man:  An inheritance of riches and a prudent wife.

In Hebrew, the word “Prudent” is sakal.  It means to be intelligent, skillful and full of wisdom.

If you walk  in the spirit, as God intended you to, you will have a lot to bring into your marriage.

The devil lies to wives and tells them that all they are good for is not much.

He tells us that we are used and totally unappreciated.  No one listens to us.  Yes, and he always tells us that the grass is greener on the other side.  If you want green grass just start watering your side!

Your husband needs your INTELLIGENCE, SKILL  and WISDOM to make him complete.

The INTELLIGENCE of maintaining a household, finances and an array of various related duties.

The SKILL of meeting the needs of a husband and children, like child-bearing and breast-feeding.  Also, handling a full-time job or church ministry.

The WISDOM to utilize your knowledge and experience.

You, your spouse and your children are a holy institute.  God is committed to making your family a complete success.

The devil is committed to “..KILL, STEAL and DESTROY…” your marriage.

God has made you “…MORE THAN A CONQUEROR…”

Are you committed to making your spouse a success?

Tell the devil to HIT THE ROAD!!

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Q&A – Question and Answer Saturday

Welcome aboard!  Every Saturday will be reserved for answering marriage questions.  Before I start, I want to thank you so much for being a part of  MARRIAGE MATTERS.  I would like to give you a peek into my heart and thoughts.

Divorce is traumatizing to a child and they are impacted for the rest of their life.  Gods design is for a child to be raised by adoring parents.  God can fill the void in a child’s life, but they are still left with scars.

What I hope to accomplish, with God leading the way, is to give spouses insight to the devils devices. More importantly is for us to partner with the Holy Spirit and receive help from on high. Also, to keep children from suffering the struggles of a violent divorce.

Inspire others to subscribe to this blog at no charge and God will bless you hundredfold because there is no limit to how far Gods word can reach.  HELPING MARRIAGES TO LAST A LIFETIME!!

Question and answers

Question #1  How do you build a relationship when you are states away?

     Answer #1:  I am assuming that you are married.  If you are not married, I would not advise it.  It’s hard to really get to know the person.  Everyone is palatable in small doses.  It’s during the long haul that issues start to appear.  If you are married, there are a lot of things you can and cannot do.  Today through social networking, you can keep communication going like never before.  Be on guard of the conversation.  Wives have a tendency to complain.  Before you talk to him, have an agenda of what you will discuss.  Make sure it is things he will enjoy.  Tell him the cute things his children are doing, not about the crummy co-worker you cannot stand.  Tell him about something interesting on the news, not about what broke in the house and how he needs to make several repairs as soon as he gets back.  Tell him a crazy joke you heard today.  Make him laugh!  Make him feel like he can’t wait till he talks to you again.  Give your list of complaints and your “honey do list” to your pet dog. 

Question #2  What are the downsides in marrying someone younger than you? 

     Answer #2  There aren’t any if you love God and partner with the Holy Spirit to have a Godly marriage and raise godly children.  That should keep any couple busy for a lifetime.  We have found through the years that if the husband is younger by 5 years of more, many times the wife has to deal with jealousy.  It isn’t the husbands problem, it’s the wifes.  She is the one who battles with her own thoughts.  The husband is usually completely pleased with her except for the insane jealousy.  When the husband is older by 10 years or more, the wife once again, has a tendency to struggle with it.  She expects a lot from him and seems to think his age is the reason for his actions.  Usually it is her who is not accepting him for who he is.  She becomes demanding and becomes frustrated.  This is what we have observed through the years of pastoring.  Since woman are supposed to out live men by approximately 10 years, they say it is fine for a woman to marry a man ten years younger than her.  My husband and I are 6 months apart. I recommend that since we are getting ready to celebrate our 42nd anniversary.  lol!!  

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