SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER 

SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER 

Question #1. My question is, is there any thing like this for husbands?  Is there something to help them understand how woman think and function.  We have certain needs also that have to be met.

Answer #1.  First I want to state that I don’t know of any blog that is for husbands.  I know it seems a little unfair, but they say most marriage books are sold to women.  I feel that it is the way God made us.  We are more emotional and look for remedies.  A man controls his emotions better than a woman but he still has feelings and emotions.  In the book , “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerich, he talks about the marriage treaty.  He uses Eph.5:33 as his guideline.  It tells the husband to love his wife, and the wife to respect her husband.  He calls it the “Crazy Cycle” when neither one does their part.  It only takes one partner to get off the “Crazy Cycle”.  I was so excited when I read that because you can have a great marriage, even if your husband does not cooperate.  This is what gave me the incentive to teach on marriage.  If not, then I would think that my teaching is useless unless the husband was listening also right next to his wife.  As the wife, you keep studying Gods word, partner with the Holy Spirit and be obedient to what God is teaching you.  Your husband will see such a change in you that he will become sensitive to your needs.  My goal in life, is to please God and not quench the Holy Spirit.  In the process, if my husband treats me with kindness, that is a big plus for me.  Other good marriage books you can get are “Laugh your way to a better Marriage” by Mark Gungor.  It is such a good feeling to know that I can control the atmosphere in my marriage by my own actions and allowing the Holy Spirit to be my guide.

Question #2.  My question is about sex.  What is wrong or right in sex?  Sex is Gods great idea and the marriage bed is undefiled, but I still have a question mark in my mind.  I want to be able to please my husband and not do something that I am not suppose to be doing.

Answer # 2.    There is a great book called “Intended for Pleasure” by Ed and Gayle Wheat.  Remember that you need to ask your husband what he wants for satisfaction.  He should be your guide.  I will be giving you some comments from the book called, “The Marriage Book” by Nicky and Sila Lee.  Sex is an act of giving.  Good sex requires both husband and wife to think how best to give each other pleasure through their lovemaking.  Sex is not a gift for self-gratification.  It is a way of giving ourselves to one another, submitting to each other’s needs and desires.  Sexual intercourse is the most intimate way of showing love to your spouse and it involves making sacrifices for each other.1Cor.7:4 “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.”  The art of giving oneself to another person can feel foreign at first; but this art must be cultivated in every area of marriage, particularly in the area of sex.