25 Mar


The definition of Masturbation is the manual stimulation of the genital organs (of yourself or another) for sexual pleasure.

Most researchers found 40% to 80% of women do this on an average of once a month.

I am not aware if these percentages are the same for Christian wives, but I am aware that I have had to counsel single Christian woman on this subject.

Since this is a sensitive subject putting the words masturbation and Christian together, I will let you know that God put it on my heart to address this subject.

Masturbation is done in the context of lust, so this verse is important.  Matt.5:27 “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time.  Thou shalt not commit adultery”

Lust is wrong inside or outside of marriage.

Before we are married, it is our desire for a mate that leads us to marry.  This is normal and natural.

1Thess.4:3-5 “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God.”

Paul is telling them that part of sanctification is abstaining from sexual immorality.

Sexual appetite, outside of marriage is sinful.

For a single person the choices are abstinence or marriage.

Prov.25:28 “A man (woman)  without self-control  is as defenseless as a city with broken-down walls.”


Masturbation falls under the category of “uncleanness.”.




1Cor.7:3-5 “Let the husband render unto the wife due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.


The wife violates her husband when she masturbates.


People who masturbate often imagine themselves in wild sexual situations.

You can develop self-control!!!!!


It doesn’t solve anything to IGNORE the problem.

Let God be your closest confidant.

Gal.5:16  “This I say then, Walk in the (Holy) Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”

1.  Repent.

2.  Fall in love with God!

3.  Ask the Holy Spirit to totally control your body daily.

4.  Praise God all day, without ceasing.

 5.  Read your word and make it personal.

6.  Surround yourself with prayer warriors.


 Eph.6:13-17 “Wherefore take unto you the whole ARMOUR of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.  Stand therefore, having your LOINS GIRD ABOUT WITH TRUTH, and having on the BREASTPLATE of RIGHTEOUSNESS: And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace.  Above all, taking the SHIELD OF FAITH, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.  And take the HELMET OF SALVATION, and the SWORD of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

NOTE:   Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be a success.


  1. Tony December 4, 2016 at 10:50 pm #

    I masturbate because I don’t have confidence in myself anymore. I have problem with premature ejaculation and because of that I abstain completely firm sex. I have used all sorts of medicine but none helped me. Is there a way you can help me?

    • Mahala April 12, 2018 at 10:20 am #

      Are you married? If so, discuss your problem with your wife and come up with solutions together to combat your lack of confidence. Hiding the issue only contributes to your lack of self-confidence. Your issue is not one that cant be fixed. Visit a doctor.

  2. Danny Cowan May 25, 2018 at 3:47 pm #

    All that is true but Hebrew chapter 13 says nothing can defile the bed in marriage between husband and a wife.

  3. K July 11, 2018 at 8:57 am #

    I’m not sure if I understand. Masterbation is not always thinking of wild sexual situations or lusting over another person. If a husband and wife are ok with the other masterbating how is it violating the other? If they belong to one another and it is permissible in their marriage how is it wrong? If the thoughts are pure and of each other how is that wrong? Please give me insight.

  4. Patricia Williams February 14, 2019 at 7:28 am #

    IN My Faith it is wrong for a Marriage Couple to ejaculation her husband or wife. It wrong in God eyes.

  5. Rachel Thomas May 16, 2019 at 8:33 am #

    Be sure to highlight the above verse saying the husband hath not power over his own body, as well. No impartiality.

  6. Nikki December 19, 2019 at 1:57 pm #

    Hi, this helps alot.

  7. Nikki December 19, 2019 at 2:00 pm #

    I have a situation that I desperately need God help with. Please help me!!

  8. muyideen elemoro September 29, 2021 at 7:31 am #

    Well masturbation can be regarded as bad at the instance of belief and faith, but some couple practice this between themselves without complain. There are some situations that the best to do, in efforts to satisfy themselves, is through this means. What is important is to minimize potential risks involve.

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