26 Mar


A flame-thrower is a potent weapon with great psychological impact upon unprepared soldiers, inflicting a particularly horrific death.

I know you must be thinking what kind of person it must take to do such an ugly thing to a person.

Well, Gods word lists people who do such things and it says that the person who does harm deserves death.

Rom.1:28-32 “…since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent (disrespectful), arrogant (prideful), and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these things but also approve of those who practice them.” (NIV)

Rom.1:32 “…they not only continue to do these things but also approve of those who practice them.” (NIV) God condemns anyone who embraces a lifestyle of sin.


You gossip and slander about your husband and you think it is in secret but it isn’t. In heaven every word is being recorded.

YESSSS!!!! You go to your mother or sisters house and you have a flame-throwing session.

YESSSS!!! You go to your best friend, or friends or work and you have a flame-throwing session.

YESSSS!! You go to your church or social engagements and you have a flame-throwing session.

You think it is ok because he is YOUR husband. No! No! No!

He is not yours, He is Gods!! It is your job to protect his reputation.

PROV.31:11-12 “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her…She will do him good and NOT EVIL all the days of her life.”

What is more severe MURDER or GOSSIP? The apostle Paul said they are both sins equally worthy of death.

Can any wife find me a verse that differs from what I’ve found so we can all start slandering and gossiping about the love of our life. The one who provides and protects us. The father of our children. The one we took vows with.

Wives many times gossip to gain attention or to be noticed.


Okay, now you made me yell!

How would you like to go to a family event, or your husband’s work, or a social event, and have everyone stare at you like you were a REAL IDIOT because of things your spouse has said behind your back.

That is EXACTLY what they think of HIM.

“Well everyone vents and so do I. I don’t mean any harm!”

You are hurting GOD!

His word, is His word!!

Gossiping about your spouse could end or break up your marriage. Prov.16:28 “A forward man soweth strife: and a whisperer (gossiper) separateth chief friends.

Gossipers are not very intelligent; they tell everything that happens. Prov.29:11 “A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise keepeth it in till afterwards.

Stop the gossip! Prov.26:20”Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.

Proverbs 26:20 talks about “fire”. A flame-thrower.

Let’s put this to practice: Eph.4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths (about your husband), but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Listen up spouses!! ARE YOU A GOOD FLAME-THROWER??

Are you GOOD at it? Are you GREAT at it?

Put down the AMMO!!!

Get another HOBBY! You are hurting GOD!

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.


  1. Shekinah September 25, 2015 at 10:52 am #

    This is correct and I agree wholeheartedly. “Gossiping” or “slandering” your husband to family and friends is completely wrong and definitely unbiblical!!! However, if you have valid and important concerns regarding certain behaviors/actions of your husband how do you separate those concerns from what is considered gossip/slander when seeking advice. The Bible is certainly our guide and instructions for life but it does not always give us clear advice on how we should proceed in every area of contention that may arise in a marriage. Someone who might have overcome the same situation (could be a friend, family member, or even a stranger) might even be better to consult than a councilor. How to you separate explaining the situation from gossiping of slandering.

    • nancysalazar September 25, 2015 at 5:10 pm #

      Hi Shekinah! Thanks so much for your comment! First of all I always encourage a spouse to pray for someone with Godly wisdom to go to. Your pastor or his wife is always the first person that you should consider because the bible says that they will “give an account for your soul.” If you go to a friend or relative, they will tell you what you want to hear or what will make you happy. God will tell you what to do so He will get the glory from your marriage. Then He will bless your marriage for being obedient to Him. Your marriage is of the utmost importance to God!

      • Shekinah September 26, 2015 at 11:55 am #

        Thank you for your reply Mrs. Salazar, unfortunately your suggestion has not worked for my spouse and I. We’ve been counseled by a few different “pastors” and/ biblical counselors it hasn’t brought much peace or change to the situation. I’ve been very convicted about sharing my grievances w/friends (even those who are walking w/Christ), and so I vowed not to do it anymore but, now I’ve been silently suffering thru all of these bottled up emotions. I suppose there’s nothing left for me to do but wait on the Lord. I cry out to Him always and He sometimes gives peace to my spirit, but it doesn’t stop me from missing the comfort of a friend in the natural; that “sweetness of a friend that gives hearty counsel.”

  2. Jennifer December 10, 2017 at 5:05 pm #

    Husbands also gossip.YES!!! I am struggling with one who does this and it is hurtful.

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