25 Mar


If you want to touch your wife deeply, look into her soul through her eyes.  She is longing for intimate conversation!  Touching base by phone is fine, but for a woman, that’s like watching an old black-and-white TV.

One of her top romantic needs is to be heard and understood by her man.  She longs for openness, a sharing of dreams, hopes, desires, and even disappointments, through focused conversation.

You might be thinking, Time out, Dennis!  A conversationalist?  I’m a man of few words.

Funny, that’s what Moses said when God asked him to be his spokesman:”Moses said to the Lord, ‘O Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past or since you have spoken to your servant.  I am slow of speech and tongue” (Ex.4:10).  And what did the Lord tell him?  “Who gave man his mouth?  Who makes him deaf or mute? …Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say” (vv.11,12).

You may say, “Now that’s fine for Moses leading the nation of Israel, but will God give me words to better communicate with your wife?”  My answer:  Absolutely.  He cares about your wife and your marriage.  The Holy Spirit still guides men (and women) in what they need to say.

Are you wondering how this is going to work?  It’s easier than you may think.  Start by praying and asking God to help you.  Then practice answering your wife’s questions with more than one sentence.  It’s okay if there’s silence for a while, but work on really sharing with her on an intimate level what you are thinking and feeling.  And if you don’t know, keep on praying and asking God to help you.  He will.  And He may use your wife to do it!

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

NOTE:  This post came from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey

4 Responses to “TALKING…FACE TO FACE”

  1. Belinda Matuska March 25, 2012 at 6:31 am #

    Sis Nancy – Awesome blog… It is so true how we do like for our husbands to share more about their f e e l i n g s (is that a bad word?). Anyways, have a great Sunday!

    • nancysalazar March 25, 2012 at 5:46 pm #

      Hi Belinda! Yes, we do. But thank God they are not like women or we would have two emotional creatures living in the same household. lol!! It is still good when they do talk to us face to face. Love You!

  2. Geneiveve March 25, 2012 at 7:20 pm #

    Hi Nancy! I truly feel I don’t have much of a marriage, for one we don’t even live in the same home any more, and haven’t for almost 3years now ,I still pray for this marriage ,but I dont think It’s going anywhere, I don’t want to spend my life without someone to share it with
    I’m afraid it might end in divorce..

    • nancysalazar March 28, 2012 at 8:22 am #

      Hi Geneiveve! Thanks for your comment. I know your situation must be painful at times. Remember that fear is not of God. Divorce is never the answer. Keeping in mind that God hates divorce, you need to constantly let the Holy Spirit be your guide. Even though your husband is not in the house and you don’t feel married, in God’s eyes you are. Your part as a wife is to pray for your husband. You are not alone! You are three. God is with you in this marriage. It doesn’t get any better than that! Fight the good fight! This blog goes all over the world and you have many wives praying for you this very minute.

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