ARE WEEDS IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Resentment breeds resentment just like weeds breed weeds.
Resentment is like taking POISON and waiting for the other person to die.
Resentments destructive power comes from several sources:
First, Resentment prevents contentment.
“Godliness with contentment is great gain.” 1Tim.6:6
Your resentment will destroy your marital happiness.
If we were left to our own devices, we would self-destruct.
Second, Resentment exaggerates emotional hurts.
“When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.” (Prov.10:19)
Exaggerating is lying.
Lying and slandering your spouse, the bible states that it is one of the things that God hates.
Don’t think that because it is your spouse that it gives you the freedom to exaggerate.
NO! NO! NO!
Third, Resentment never forgets.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell in the past..” Isa.43:18
Therapists try but fail to get people to let go of resentments.
Resentment best fits our “lower nature”.
In other words, we become animalistic when we harbor resentment.
85% of illnesses are due to stressful situations.
Has holding resentment against your spouse ever made you healthier or happier?
We enjoy resentment because it makes us feel self-righteous and adds to our self-pity.
We feel uncomfortable like we are betraying our deepest need if we let our spouse off the hook.
Fourth, Resentment is revengeful.
“…Avenge not yourself…it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” Rom. 12:19
The natural thing for us to do is to plan revenge against our spouse.
Get the weeds out of your marriage!
Only you can do it.
No one else can put those weeds out.
They are growing and multiplying as you read this blog.
The longer they stay there, the thicker and stronger they get.
You will JUSTIFY your position, but the reality is you have lost your position.
Clear the path to your heart so the Holy Spirit can bring great things into your life and marriage.
NOTE: Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Please do not hold resentment against your spouse or any one for that matter. It will end of killing God’s greatest gift which is your spouse. I know this has played a great part in while I’m suffering a now 10 week separation. Although I have God’s forgiveness and repent for my sins I still don’t have my marriage, husband or family and God has dealt with me and the separation has made me a better Godly person and keeping faithful and praying God will bring my husband back and restore my marriage allowing me to be the wife he has changed me to be. May God bless you and help you if you have resentment that you are dealing with before you are suffering like I am at this time.
Hi Tammy! Thanks so much for you comment. I know it must be very painful. We all make mistakes in our marriage, the important thing is to learn from it. Stay sensitive to Gods Holy Spirit. Thank Jesus that He left us a guide and teacher. The Holy Spirit will lead you in the right direction. Many times a husband sees his remorseful wife, but he doesn’t believe she has really changed. Fall in love with Jesus and he will see a dramatic change in you. God is with you. He is pleased in your progress. Stay in Gods word and stay holy. I am proud of you!
It was like putting on my glasses when I wake up in the morning. Or checking my cell phone. It was something I had to do first thing in the morning…put on forgiveness. I had to. I needed for my marriage to succeed, my children were counting on it. It wasn’t easy, simple but not easy. I had to purpose in my mind that I was going to forgive my husband for that day. I did that everyday until it became a habit. After that it got easier. It came more easily to forgive and move forward…
@ Tammy-I feel for you! Don’t get discouraged, it’s worth the fight, so worth it!! People are watching you and want to see you come through this so they can know that there is hope for their marriages as well…
Hi L. Lopez! I love it, I love it! The way you said it was something you had to do first thing in the morning…put on forgiveness. You did it until it became a habit. You are truly a daughter of God. It is only through his strength a person can get past the hurt and bitterness. The world needs more wives like you!
Tammy,
We are in a very similar situation…mine a little longer, but I am still here. God has also changed me in so many ways. I am not sure if my wife can see it, but I must believe that God will show her at the proper time. Please continue to be faithful and continue to pray. Let’s also exchange prayers…I will add you to my prayers and I ask you do the same for me. One day soon we will both comment on Mrs. Nancy blog of how God blessed both of us and our marriages and it will be an inspiration to someone going through the same thing.
Hi Dion! What a great comment!!!! You have made God smile and the devil flee. Keep up the faith and testimony. We are all cheering for you!!!