8 Apr

Yes, men do dream of having their “fantasy castle”.

I am sure everyone has heard of the saying that, “A mans home is his castle.”


My husband is artistic, so he loves to pick where we live and how it will be decorated.

Thank God we have the same taste or it would be a mess.

We will continue on with some comments from the book, “His needs, her needs”, by Willard F. Harley Jr.

A man’s fantasy goes something like this:

His home life is free of stress and worry,

After work, his wife greets him lovingly at the door and

Their well-behaved children are also glad to see him.

He enters the comfort of a well maintained home

As his wife urges him to relax before having dinner.

Conversation at the dinner is enjoyable and

Free of conflict.

Later the family goes out together for an early evening stroll, and

He returns to put the children to bed

With no hassle or fuss.

Then he and his wife relax and

Talk together,

Watch a little television, and,

At a reasonable hour, go to bed to make love.

Does this look like what happens in your home nightly?

How many men would marry a woman who would refuse to manage housework or childcare?

The “man’s fantasy” has become the “woman’s fantasy” as well.  They both want to relax after a stressful day at work.

Do you use your time wisely?  Prov.31:27 “She looketh well to the ways of her household (is a good manager, is economical) and eateth not the bread of idleness.”

Once you get home, be careful not to spend extra time on the phone talking to friends.

Also, watch your social networking time because time can pass quickly.

Are you a good homemaker?  Titus 2:5 “To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home (homemakers), good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Be sure to get rid of clutter.  Whatever your husband is asking for you to do, you should spend time completing.

Do you teach your children about God?  Isa.54:13  “And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children.”

Try to be creative.  Ken and Trudy Blount have many resources for family.  They have one book that has an array of ideas for everyday to do activities with your children.  It has been highly recommended!

Do you allow angry words in your home?  Eph.4:26 “Be ye angry: Let not the and sin not sun go down upon your wrath.”

It only takes one person to stop a fight.  All day you have been a  testimony to your coworkers, now be a testimony to your own family.

Do you lust at what your neighbor has?  Luke 12:15 “…take heed and beware of covetousness: for a mans (woman’s) life consists not in the abundance of the things which he (she) possesseth.”

The devil tells all of us that we are working for nothing.  He always shows us someone who is in a better financial standing then us to get us to covet.  Don’t go for his tricks.

On Sunday does your family drop everything and go to church?

Ex.20:8-10 “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy…the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord thy God…”

Prepare the day before for church.  This way everyone gets up and knows exactly what they are suppose to be doing.

In Lu Ann Bransby’s book “ Woman”, she lists 8 ways to have a happy household.

  1. Repent of your sins and turn away from them.
  2. Dedicate your house and everything in it to God.
  3. Keep yourself and your family pure.  Do not have sex with anyone who is not your spouse…No sexual fantasies, objects, literature, TV shows.
  4. Do not drink, take drugs, or us foul language.  Treat each other the way you would like to be treated.
  5. Go to church together.
  6. Use self-control in all things.
  7. Read the bible and pray together.
  8. Love your neighbor.

Your husband’s home is his castle.

Let him make DECISIONS for his own home!!!

Or is your husband just a guest and can’t make the decision?


Whose castle is it anyway????



NOTE:  Don’t miss tomorrows post.  Daily there is a new post.


  1. Lydia Barraza April 8, 2011 at 8:06 am #

    Sister Nancy – all I can say is WOW!!!, you really hit home… I got on your blog this morning not only to read what you had for us today but because I really wanted to Thank you for all your labor of love in helping me and so many others with the REAL issues in our marriages… Just have to say last night at our Relate group there was a couple who needed prayer in their marriage… the awesome thing is when we (the women) talked to the wife the majority of us could use your blog and your marriage class as a reference for her to get help…I know you deal with alot of us who feel if we don’t get respect from our husbands than we shouldn’t have to give it, but me personally I just want to really express my gratitude of the countless times you have helped me in my marriage even when you have to tell me it is MY FAULT, I thank God that you don’t sugar coat anything you let me know exactly where I need to change and how I NEED TO LOVE MY HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT I AM FEELING…THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU – YOUR REWARD IS GREAT 🙂

    • nancysalazar April 8, 2011 at 9:23 am #

      Thanks Lydia. The beauty of what you have said, is the fact that you have passed it on so others can enrich their marriages. Your reward is great as well! You have gone through much in your marriage and now you are “..more than a conqueror.” God is so good!! He is the champion in our marriages!!

  2. christina reyes April 8, 2011 at 1:39 pm #

    Sister Nancy

    All I can say is you hit home!!!! Just last night me and my husband had a incident that involved one of our son’s and a decision that my husband had made(and thank you Jesus it was not a major crisis, but (Christina)ME decided to tell my husband that I did not agree with his decision, and his very quiet response was; I guess my decisions around here don’t count, he walked away in silience.

    Thank You very much, this is a big eye opener for me, and I am sure for aolt of other women

    God Blessyou and your family!!!

    • nancysalazar April 8, 2011 at 3:31 pm #

      Yes, those situations can get really sticky. What is sad, is that I have seen through the years, when a wife will not let the husband take the lead, he stops caring. It always turns into a fight, so he just starts saying “Fine, you decide.” Many times they will turn their attention on other things and you don’t want that. God has established an order in our homes. That is for the wife to let the husband take the lead if we cannot come to a mutual decision. When I give in, one of two things happen. Either his decision works out great or it doesn’t work and my decision is the backup plan. No matter how it works out, there is always a blessing that comes my way. It is Gods way of saying to me, because I have followed his plan of submission for the family, He will reward me for keeping the peace. He doesn’t have to but he is an awesome God! You knock the evil one back to the next town and out of your house. PRAISE GOD!!

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