9 Mar



My husband just married a couple this weekend.  I always love to see the grooms face when he sees his bride walking down the aisle.

My father had left our family about 5 years before I got married.  I remember waiting at the back of the church for him to walk me down the aisle.  I was his only daughter, but he never showed up.  One of my little brothers, who was shorter than me, walked me down the aisle because my older brother was in training to leave for the Vietnam war.

Did I care that my dad didn’t come?  No!?!  I was about to marry the greatest man I had ever met.  I was “IN LOVE”!!

Almost all brides and grooms are “IN LOVE”, when they get married.

One of the main questions wives ask me is, “What can I do to love my husband again?”   This is a question that wives ask me all over the world when I give marriage seminars.

It is a scientific fact that there is such a thing as “body chemistry.”  The sad truth is that it is also a scientific fact that it only lasts about 18 months to 2 years.

Thank God he has given us answers in His word on how to handle this.

Gal.5:6”…but faith which works by love.” KJV

The message bible says, “What matters is something far more interior: faith expressed in love.


In Beth Moore’s book , she states that if you put Gal.5:6 along side with 2Cor. 5:7 “…we walk by faith…“ this is what you get:

We LIVE by faith,  We LOVE by faith.


We have heard that love is not a FEELING, but have we learned it???     LET’S LEARN IT!!!!!!


LOVE is a LIFESTYLE!!     Eph.5:2”And walk in love…”


This verse tells us to “live love”.

We are to love SACRIFICIALLY !!

CASE AND POINT:  Just like we get up every morning and squeeze the toothpaste out of the tube,  we don’t  just stare at the tube hoping the paste will come out.  I know it sounds ridiculous but lets face it,  we put more work into our face in the morning than we do into our marriage all day.

God so desires to HELP us SQUEEZE His love into our lives.

God will always put people in our lives that for us, are HARD to LOVE.

If you don’t find yourself at sometime feeling the squeeze to “walk in love”, WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE HARD TO LOVE, then you might be living a self-centered life.

As you step out in faith to love the HARD TO LOVE people in your life, Gods Holy Spirit intervenes and does the impossible.  Are you showing love to your spouse, but aren’t seeing any FRUIT from your labor.  DO YOU GIVE UP???

Keep going and showing love because you are living out the scripture, “…faith which worketh by love…”.


Those verses would not be in the bible if it was just easy to love everyone all the time.   It’s impossible for us to do that.

But “…with God all things are possible…”


You should love your husband even if:

*  You don’t feel like it,

*  He doesn’t deserve it,

*  You get nothing in return.

*  Etc.

God calls all spouses to sacrifice our SELFISHNESS!!

AGAPE , which is the Greek word for love, is when you chose to love as an act of the will.

1Cor.13:8 says that “…love never fails…”

We should love out of OBEDIENCE.

This doesn’t mean that you will get the results you want.

The word “fail“ portrays not having any effect.

When you love YOUR SPOUSE sacrificially, EL ROI, the God who sees me, sees everything.   Yes!!!!   He sees everything!!!

When we love our spouse SACRIFICIALLY in Jesus’ name for His honor and glory, WE CANNOT FAIL.

Are you going to believe Gods word by faith or are you going to obey your emotions?

Love by faith wives, not just by feelings.

Why is loving your spouse so painful and fruitless at times?  Because you are trying to fill up your gas tank with a  little gas can.

Rom.5:5 “…the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts  by the Holy Ghost which is given to us.”

This verse is saying that He will fill your tank up with His love if you daily make a commitment of your will to Him.


1Cor.13:13  “…the greatest …is love.


She loves me,  she loves me not,  SHE LOVES ME !!!!!!!!




NOTE: Don’t miss tomorrows post!    Every day is a new post.

4 Responses to “SHE LOVES ME, SHE LOVES ME NOT ;-(”

  1. Michaela March 9, 2011 at 11:02 pm #

    Wonderful post Sis. Nancy. I can’t tell you how much this one made me think about all my close relationships with my family and friends. I definitely can’t win them over without that kind of love, agape, Gods love.
    Thank you

    • nancysalazar March 10, 2011 at 5:44 am #

      Hi Michaela! Isn’t it great to have God’s Holy Spirit to show us all truths and help us at the time of need. To be able to love the HARD TO LOVE is such a great miracle in our lives. I love your comment.

  2. Alicia Perez March 10, 2011 at 12:28 pm #

    Thank you for sharing from your heart and life experiences. I have watched over the years and know that practice what you preach! I cling to your advice and exampleship. I’m blessed to have you as my pastor’s wife and friend! xoxo

    • nancysalazar March 10, 2011 at 2:52 pm #

      Thanks so much Alicia. I wish I had said that first about you because that is how I feel about you. You have persevered for many years and I am doubly blessed to see God giving you the desires of your heart. You have a big heart for the ones that cannot do for themselves. Love you! Nancy

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