And you do have two lovers also.
Yes you do and I will tell you exactly who they are: The flesh and the spirit.
They do not like each other and they don’t get along.
Gal.5:17 “For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.”
Every day and all through the day, our soul has a choice to obey what the spirit of God is telling us or obey what our flesh wants us to do.
This is exactly how and why fights and arguments start in marriages.
That is why it says in Lev.18:18 and repeats it in Gal.5:14 “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
If you don’t, you kill something inside your spouse. It hurts hours, days and years after it has been said.
And wives don’t exclude yourself by saying that men are not sensitive and nothing hurts them. DON’T YOU DARE!!
We are to never assume what our husbands are thinking.
My husband told me once to never tell someone what he is thinking.
The reason is that I don’t know what he is thinking. I can only know what he is saying. It is so UNFAIR to do that.
When I am talking with a wife and she starts telling me what her husband is thinking, I stop her. Then I have her repeat exactly what he has said.
Many times it is very hard for the wife to repeat what he has said because the DUDE didn’t say anything wrong. The wife is just making assumptions of what he is thinking
Lets look at our FIRST LOVER. Gal.5:19 “Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like…those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
We like this lover. Especially “…hatred, contentions, jealousies, outburst of wrath, selfish ambitions…”
No??? Am I wrong? Let’s ask our spouse. Okay?!?
Let’s now look at our OTHER LOVER. Gal.5:22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control…”
No assignment today, but it would be interesting if we gave a list of our two lovers and ask our spouse which one we are most like. LOL!!
I bet our spouse can tell which lover has control of our life.
Gal.5:15 “But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!”
OH WOW! There is a test. Look for bite marks! [on your spouse]
Don’t get mad at me, I didn’t write that verse. Silly you!
The Apostle Paul knows how we feel. Read Romans 7:15-25.
He says what I want to do, I don’t do. Then what I don’t want to do, I end up doing.
In Romans 7:24, Paul calls himself “wretched”. That word in Greek means “miserable”.
He is saying, I did it my way. I did what I wanted to do and I’M MISERABLE!!
Wives have you ever had it out with your hubby and you won or didn’t win but did what you wanted to do anyway?
How did you feel girlfriend? Huh, did it feel good??
May I answer that? No, you didn”t feel good. You felt miserable because you couldn’t even enjoy yourself.
If you allow the Holy Spirit to help you put your desires aside, you will keep from FOLLOWING THE FLESH.
Romans 8:13 “For if you live according to the …Spirit, you put to death the deeds of the body…”
You must wage war by the power of the Spirit!
Your spouse loves the OTHER LOVER best.
NOTE: Don’t miss tomorrows blog. We will learn the top 3 needs in a mans life. Can u guess them?
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Great image Michelle! Thanks. I’m sure everyone will enjoy it!
THese have been so good for me… Have encouraged me and at the same time put me in check… Todays blog was really the slap i needed… Cant wait for tomorrow’s… Thanks for ur time and lessons… Lol these r about as addicting as facebook for me… Lol
Thanks Michelle. I really enjoyed your comment. It will be a great encouragement to other wives. Continue to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit.
WOW!! Thank you Sister Nancy for telling us like it is and not holding back. I too have been guilty of telling my husband what he’s thinking. Thanks for giving us direction as we strive to be the wives who live only in the spirit!:) You are my hero!
Hi Nikki! You will never know how much I admire you for your spirit of perserverance. Keep doing what you are doing because you are an overcomer!!
I never want to kill anything inside my husband. I pray that even when its hard to do the right thing that I am careful with the words that I use. I genuinely believe that when you seek the spirit of God in your marriage in all aspects that you will be led. I have experienced this and its kinda funny how God will lead you. I often find the finger pointing back at me. ; ) Thanks for your Godly insight!
Thanks Christina. Your comment has inspired us all!
I may not fit the category of “wife” but I’ve read every blog! I can never learn enough or fail to be encouraged in some way by His word. Today’s a perfect example – my kids can tell you who my best lover is! I pray there aren’t too many scars from bite marks over the years! Thanks for all you do for us!
Thanks so much for your comment. Boy could I identify with what you said. We are all in this journey together.
Sister Nancy,
I just love your blogs!!! Even though I’m single, I still enjoy learning about marriage (it’s a special gift), and I don’t think you can be too prepared or prepared enough.
Can’t wait to read more!
You are very wise. You will have a great marriage in the future if that is what you desire. If not, these will help you with all relationships that you encounter. You Go Girl!! God is on your side.