RAW REALITIES OF MARITAL LIFE

24 Oct

  RAW REALITIES OF MARITAL LIFE

Every Sunday morning, thousands of preachers present polished gems—sermons filled with outstanding biblical knowledge.  But what do we usually do?  After the message, we dutifully sing a song, listen to a prayer, and hustle out by noon.

Where do we take the time to assimilate what we’ve heard?  Too often we gather up the kids, grab a bite to eat, and launch into our Sunday afternoon routine.

Even Balaam, a non-Israelite prophet who apparently really did hear from God, understood the importance of acquiring “the words of God, and…the knowledge of the Most High” (Num.24:16).  Such knowledge is more than mere information—it’s a knowledge that results in convictions and applications.  It’s a truly teachable spirit that applies God’s truth and blueprints amidst the raw realities of life.

Many of us need accountability in order to apply what we’ve learned.  We need someone who will break through our self-built fences and our crowded loneliness and ask us if we are applying to our marriages what we’ve learned from God’s Word in our marriage and family relationships.  Do you have a friend who regularly checks up on you?

Balaam, by the way, didn’t  have such an accountability partner– and he wound up on the sharp side of a Hebrew sword (see Josh.13:22).  Learn from his mistake!

NOTE:  This was an article from “Family Life Marriage Bible” by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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WEIGHT DOES MATTER IN MARRIAGE

23 Oct

       

WEIGHT DOES MATTER IN MARRIAGE

This question was taken from “Family Life Marriage Bible” by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

Question:

What can a woman do when her husband gains an unattractive amount of weight?

Answer:  

An important ingredient of any marriage is the need for husbands and wives to please each other.  Obviously, no husband can lose weight overnight; but if he is seeking to please his wife, then he can make an effort to look sharp and attractive.

Pray that the Lord would grant you opportunities to express how you feel in a gentle and supportive way.  Ask if there is anything you can do to help.  Ask God to help you avoid bitterness toward your husband.  Don’t become preoccupied with the negative, but give him some grace, and love him.

Remember as well that while weight does matter, other issues are more important than external appearance.  Ask God to help you focus on the things that matter most–your husband’s spiritual maturity and his leadership of the family and the marriage, character, faithfulness at work and at home.

If the relationship is healthy  and he is meeting your needs and encouraging you and loving you, and you are focusing on what is most important, I think the old statement, “Love is blind,” is true.  Weight issues don’t  have to get in the way.

NOTE:  This article was taken from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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THE GREATEST TREATISE ON MARRIAGE

22 Oct

            

THE GREATEST TREATISE ON MARRIAGE

Do you find that many times when your spouse says something to you, you lose control, and say something out of line?

Instead of listening to your spouse’s point of view, you let your anger speak out of resentment, only to REGRET every word later on.

God knows that these occasions will happen from time to time.

He has the ANSWER in His word.

“…let each one of you (husbands) also must love his own wife as himself, and so the wife must respect her husband.”

This verse is the summary statement of the greatest treatise on marriage in the New Testament.

One of the greatest books on marriage is “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerich.  This book is a must for every marriage.

Without LOVE,  the wife reacts without RESPECT.

Without RESPECT, the husband reacts without LOVE.

In Emerson’s book he calls this the “Crazy Cycle”.

The wife tells herself that she is not going to treat her husband  with respect till he shows her love by doing what she wants.

Then, the husband tells HIMSELF that he is not going to love her by doing what she wants till she starts treating him with respect.

They go around and around and around with neither one pleasing their spouse.

It may sound silly, but it is not FUNNY at all.

It happens in every marriage and it is a marriage killer.

Pride sets in and now every one  is stuck on “STUPID!”

Does that sound familiar?????  Of course it does.

It only takes one partner to get off the “Crazy Cycle” and the cycle stops.

My husband does not like to argue.

However, there are times that we do argue about ISSUES.

I make it a point every day to be the one to get off the “Crazy Cycle.”

If I feel the conversation is starting to get out of control and neither one of us is listening anymore, we are both talking, I choose to stop.

If you love God and care about your marriage, GET OFF THE CRAZY CYCLE..

You have a choice and you cannot blame anyone else for the chaos in your marriage.

My CHOICE is to respect my husband even if he is not showing love by doing what I ask.

Every day I get off the “crazy cycle.”

What about you??

STAYING  STUPID??!?!?

NOTE: Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

DIVORCE – A FUNERAL THAT NEVER ENDS

21 Oct

DIVORCE – A FUNERAL THAT NEVER ENDS

 God’s word says that He hates divorce. “For the Lord God of Israel says that he hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence…”  Mal.2:16 Divorce breaks the SACRED vows and commitment between two people and God. Two people are madly in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together. They purchase new furniture for their place and make it comfortable. Then a few years later they HATE each other and want to DESTROY each other. They start ruining their furniture and breaking kitchenware along with any equipment. What happened? In verse 16, we see the answer to that question. A “spirit of violence” enters into the union of marriage. I have seen this happen over and over again. Divorce is a FUNERAL that NEVER ENDS. Divorce births a “spirit of violence.” You can’t believe it is the same couple that was so in love. Nothing justifies VIOLENCE towards your spouse. In Mal.2:11, a marriage is referred to as a “Holy Institution”. Remember, anything “Holy” means that it is “set apart.” Anything “set apart” will be attacked by the enemy. The enemy does not want the kingdom of God EXPANDED or BLESSED. Marriage is referred to as an “divine” establishment. In verse15, we see why the enemy doesn’t want our marriages united. But why? “But did He not make them one?  Having a remnant of the Spirit?  And why one?  He seeks Godly offspring.  Therefore take heed to your spirit…” That is the answer. Why did God create marriage?  BINGO!! He wants GODLY OFFSPRING! God desires that we have children, raise them godly, and multiply the world. When we divorce, we destroy each other, our children and our loved ones. Malachi 2:15 says to take heed to your spirit. In other wards, pay attention to your “stinking attitude.” Maybe you don’t care about your marriage but God does. He has an investment in it. Start protecting God’s investment today. He said to be fruitful and multiply. “TAKE HEED…” NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to make your marriage a success.

HELP FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

20 Oct

       

HELP FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

Do you ever call on the power of the Holy Spirit to be in the center of your marriage.

Married couples forget to call on this help for their marriage.

Every day we encounter problems at our workplace, raising our children, finances and an array of problems.

Most of us have attended a marriage seminar or read an article and told ourselves that we will now work towards the perfect marriage.

The next thing we know, we find ourselves in a debate that ended without a win-win result.

Don’t condemn yourself because all is not hopeless.

Learning marriage principles is great but we need the power of the Holy Spirit if we want a long-term change.

In Malachi 2, it says that marriage is God’s “Holy Institute.”

Anything “Holy” is a target for the enemy.

CASE AND POINT:  One day I was studying on my bed.  My husband was exercising in our garage and was coming up the steps.  As he was coming up the steps, I turned my head and in a flash I saw a demon crouched down in my bedroom ready to attack my husband.  Now I don’t believe Christians can be demon possessed and my husband is a very Godly man.  Good marriages are his major target.  I shared this story in my marriage class.  I thought all the women would walk out and think I was crazy.  After my class was over, one wife came up to me with tears in her eyes.  This may sound funny but she told me that she was so glad to hear that.  She said she feels like her marriage is always being attacked and felt she was the only one.  To hear that a demon had the nerve to come into my bedroom made her feel she was not alone battling for a good marriage.

On our own we cannot consistently pursue a great marriage.

2Cor.13:14 “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the Love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you all.”

You need the communion of the Holy Spirit in your marriage.

Jesus was giving his disciples a new leader:

John 14:26 “But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.”

John 16:13 “When He , the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears, He will speak; and He will tell you things to come.”

The minute you accept Christ as your savior, the Holy Spirit comes into your life.

God loves the Holy Spirit so much that he chastised the children of Israel for their disobedience.

“But they rebelled and grieved His Holy Spirit; so He turned Himself against them as an enemy.” (Isa.63:10)

David knew that the secret of his greatness was not him but the power of the Holy Spirit.

“Dnot cast me away from Your presence, And do not take your Holy Spirit from me.”  (Psa.52:11)

Let your natural reactions be replaced by the leading of the Holy Spirit.

“For if you live according to the flesh you will die…”  (Rom.8:13-14)

The Holy Spirit produces fellowship with God and an affective relationship with our spouses.

This is how the Holy Spirit impacts your marriage:

  • He empowers you to fight sin (Gal.5:15-16)
  • Helps to produce fruit of the spirit in you (Gal.5:22-23)
  • Daily directs your life (Rom.8:14)
  • Assist your marriage to glorify Jesus (John 16:14)
  • Convicts you of sin (John 16:18)
  • Gives power to be Christ-like (Eph.3:16)

Ask the Holy Spirit right now to help your marriage succeed.

The Holy Spirit will teach you not to quench His Spirit.

He will teach you how to keep your marriage fresh and vibrant!

You have tried everything else, Give Him a try!!!!

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

THE RIGHT KIND OF FEAR

19 Oct

THE RIGHT KIND OF FEAR

Fear Can Prompt Us To Do all sorts of foolish and hurtful things. When you let it pile up in your marriage, it can cause an avalanche of trouble.

For example, how would you respond to your wife if you feared she didn’t respect you, didn’t love you, and thought you were a sorry excuse for a husband?

How would you respond to your husband if you fear he considered you little more than an old piece of luggage and didn’t value you or your opinion?

How would you respond to your in-laws if you feared they thought of you as a poor choice of spouse?

Fears-most of them irrational-can creep into your home in a thousand ways. If that’s the case for you, Isaiah has a good word for you, “The Lord of hosts, Him you shall hallow; let Him be your fear, and let Him be your dread” (Isaiah 8:13). When we truly fear the Lord, all other fears pale into nothingness. A healthy fear of God calms our nerves and helps us to see the universe as it truly is-safe and secure in His very competent hands. The fear of God can deliver you from the fear of man. And since the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom (Ps. 111:10), no home can be built successfully without it.

NOTE:  This article is from the book “Family Life and Marriage Bible” by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER

18 Oct

SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER

  Question #1: How can I best respect my husband?

Answer #1.  When you respect your husband-something that God commands wives to do in Ephesians 5:33-you notice him, regard him, honor him, prefer him, and esteem him. Respecting him means valuing his opinion, admiring his wisdom and character, appreciating his commitment to you, and considering his values and needs-and our husbands have many needs!

I believe that meeting these needs is what respecting your husband is all about. To bolster Dennis’s confidence, for example, I try to be his number one fan. Every husband wants his wife to be on his team, to coach him when necessary-but most of all, to be his cheerleader. The macho man who is self-contained, independent, and invulnerable is a myth. Your husband needs a wife who is behind him, believing in him, appreciating him, and cheering him on as he goes out into the world every day.

 

NOTE:  This article is from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

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