EVERY COUPLE HAS A GOOD REWARD
Give your spouse credit for their resolution ideas
In order to get your spouse to think your way, you need their COOPERATION.
You might never see a good idea from your spouse that isn’t yours.
To be effective, you need to understand that you never LOSE credit when you share the glory with your spouse.
When you highlight the contribution of your spouse, they will increase their self-confidence and it will raise their spirit—which will improve future performance.
In Matt.10:10 Jesus said, “…the worker is worthy of his support.”
A spouse NEVER loses out by giving credit and recognition where it is due.
By giving your spouse credit for their ideas, you are demonstrating that together, you have both effectively built a strong team.
Psa.133:1 “…how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!”
Eccles.4:9 “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor.” There are four reasons why two are better than one:
- Because they have more reward for their labor. (v.9)
- One can lift the other one up if he falls. (4:10)
- Both can keep warm. (4:11)
- They can prevail against another. (4:12)
This is an excellent and worthy ACCOMPLISHMENT.
By arguing and yelling out names, you quench the Holy Spirit, along with all that the two of you are trying to build for Gods kingdom.
Always explain to your spouse CALMLY that you both are on the same team and that you want to do your part to make the both of you look good.
You would make your spouse feel really important if you tell them that you also want them involved in any future issues that may come up.
Complaining will yield NO FRUIT, and will probably only antagonize your spouse.
Try to resolve issues; then learn to live with the situation.
If you fail to reach an understanding or an agreement with your spouse after attempting to work out the situation, seek the Lord’s GUIDANCE and extend grace to your spouse.
Live with the situation!
Don’t develop a negative attitude because it will DAMAGE your credibility and eat you alive.Let go of resentment!
Remember the saying: Differences create the challenges in life that open the door to discovery.
In the book, “The seven habits of highly effective teens” by Sean Covey, he defines a word called SYNERGIZE. Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create a better solution than either could alone.
It’s not your way but a better way, a higher way.
GETTING TO SYNERGY ACTION PLAN
1. Define the problem or opportunity
2. Their way (Seek first to understand the ideas of others.)
3. My way (Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas)
4. Brainstorm (Create new options and ideas.)
5. High way (Find the best solution)
Do you try and ram your OPINIONS down your spouses’ throat?
How does that make you feel after?
Isn’t it wiser to get IDEAS from your spouse since not everyone thinks like you?
In fact, no one else thinks like you!!!
Our brain is so intricate that there are trillions of ways to process information.
If you only respect your idea, you are living in denial.
It has been recorded, that Walt Disney never gave anyone on staff credit for their work. He would tell them that it was better for people to recognize the Disney name then to give everyone credit. It brought a lot of division in his employees. He got credit for everything they did. At different intervals, he would loose his best cartoonist and other very valuable employees. Walt Disney did not care. He only cared about the Disney name getting the credit.
Let’s avoid making our spouse feel like less of a person just like these Disney employees.
TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE!!!
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