MAKING YOUR SPOUSE LIKE YOU
There are ways to make your spouse like you and one of them is to be genuinely interested in them.
Morning, noon and night your spouse is interested in HIMSELF.
Phil.2:4 “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.” KJV
“Look out for the interest of others and not only for your own personal interest.” NSB (New Simplified Bible)
Statistics show that it is easier for you to make your spouse a friend in two months by becoming genuinely interested in him than you can in two years trying to get him interested in you.
Spouses, it’s alright to do things for your SPOUSE that requires your time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.
Listen to what your spouse likes and take them a gift of something they will enjoy.
Listen for CLUES of what your spouse is interested on and initiate a conversation on the topic of his interests.
If you want to know what your spouse is interested in, have a Bar-B-Q and invite your spouse’s friends. Listen to their conversation and you will learn their favorite topics.
In Meriden, Connecticut, a survey was done to see what subjects adults were most interested in studying.
The result of the study was that their first interest was Health.
The Second interest was in people:
How to understand and get along with people;
How to make people like you; and
How to win others to your way of thinking.
The authors sole purpose of his survey and book was to help readers discover, develop and profit from their physical and mental resources that are dormant and unused assets.
CASE AND POINT: There was a time in my marriage when I felt like I didn’t have anything of interest to contribute in trying to open communication with my husband. I decided that the only way I can have a conversation that would prompt his interest was to ask a question on one of his favorite topics. When I did that, he opened up and kept talking. I felt like I had really accomplished something in our marriage.
This may seem very hard and strange at first because it takes us out of our “comfort zone.”
It stretches us to talk on a subject that we not only know nothing about but we are also not interested in it at all.
God will bless your EFFORTS.
Anything you do to improve your marriage, the Holy Spirit will get in the middle and anoint it.
It has happened to me over and over again.
Marriage isn’t for babies, it’s for adults.
You will get on the ground and play with a silly toy just to bond with your child and see a smile on their face, yet you don’t take the time to make conversation on a topic your spouse loves.
What are you WAITING for?
I’m glad I didn’t wait.
Don’t lose out on this daily opportunity that won’t come back again because of your PRIDE.
Just ask a widow!!
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