28 Mar

For women who conceive very easily, it is very hard for them to understand the plight of a woman who is involuntarily childless.

I will cover some statistics from different sources.  Most will come from a chapter in the book called, “Woman: A formula for victorious living” by Lu Ann Bransby.

Nearly 1 out of every 6 couples in the U.S. suffer the anguish of being childless.  For millions it’s a physical problem or hormonal.  About two-thirds of infertility cases can be REVERSED through new medical techniques.

It’s the husband who turns out to have the physical problem in up to 40% of all infertile couples.  Some men have a severe reaction because he falsely believes he is not a complete man since his masculinity is involved.

Infertile couples can pursue other alternatives knowing that God will BLESS every effort they undertake in His name. Many couples clam up about their situation but this is the time that they need to receive from other Christians.  Women should not feel they are a disappointment to their husbands.

Couples who put all their faith and trust in God find their relationship strengthened.  Their situation brings them even closer together.

Some couples become consumed with their infertility.  Their longing for a child swallows up the joy in their lives.  Being childless is not the end of life, health or happiness.

Infertility is NEVER hopeless.  Eph.1:11-12 “In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory.”

Those words remind us that everything is in conformity with God’s purpose and will, even infertility.

A couple’s infertility will somehow serve God’s purpose and bring GLORY to the Savior’s name.

What do infertile couples do?

Being childless can be met head-on by Christian couples in exactly the same way that they might address any other challenge in life.

Call on God in PRAYER.  Phil.4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Prayer can help infertile couples to deal with insensitive people.  Prayer reminds Christians that God holds all of us in the palm of his hand.

It isn’t wrong for a childless couple to long for a child.  Jesus promises, “Everything is possible for him who believes” Mark 9:23

They can be happy also knowing  that God has a PLAN for their lives as well.

Contentment with your path in life is always God-pleasing.

A barren womb is never God’s fault!

God wants women to have children. Psa.113:9 “He (God) makes the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children.”

The Lord promises BLESSINGS on all who reverence, trust, and obey Him!  Psa.128:2-6 “Their reward shall be prosperity and happiness.  Your wife shall be contented in your home.  And look at all those children! There they sit around the dinner table as vigorous and healthy as young olive trees.  That is God’s reward to those who reverence and trust him.  May the Lord continually bless you with heaven’s blessings as well as human joy. May you live to enjoy your grandchildren!”

What barren women should do.

1.  Pray consistently for God to heal you or your husband’s body.

2.  Constantly read the scriptures.

3.  Take complete inventory of your lives.

4.  Make sure there are no signs of unforgiveness in your heart, past or present. (Lk.6:27-38)

5.  Make sure you do not have a judgmental spirit. (Lk.6:37)

6.  Ask God to direct your path daily.  (Pr.3:5-7)

7.  Do not blame God for your condition.  (Dan. 9:9)

8.  Do not blame your husband for your infertility.  (Mat.7:3-5)

9.  Do not rob God of His rightful share of your money.  (Mal. 3:8-10)

10.  Make sure there is no form of occult activity in your life.  (Mat.6:24)

11.  You should fast.  (Mat.6:16-18)

12.  Cast all fear out of your life.  (2Tim.1:7)

13.  Don’t read anything the secular world has against Gods teachings. (Matt.6:22-23)

14.  Let God be your strength and power.  (2Chron.16:9)

15.  Get rid of sin in your life.

16.  You must yield yourself completely to God.  (Rom.6:12)

17.  Trust God completely.  (Col.4:12)

18.  Obey God completely.

19.  Put all bitterness aside.

20.  Be patient.  (Jas.1:17)

21.  Be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.  (Jas.1:19-22)

22.  Take authority over Satan.  (Mk.8:33)

23.  Have complete faith and do not doubt.  (Mk.11:22-23)

24.  Put on the whole armor of God.  (Eph.6:11-15


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4 Responses to “MY BARREN WOMB”

  1. Diana December 6, 2014 at 3:25 am #

    I came across your site reading about Stonewalling. My partner is doing that now.
    I didnt know what I did wrong. We are in a long distance relationship and he has been trying so hard the last year to improve his fertility so we can have children. I didnt know that he got the results – he kept it to himself. He was angry at me on a phone call and I couldnt understand. I was so confused. He refused to Skype with me even for 5 minutes saying he had to help his daughter (past relationship) with homework and do chores.
    I was in shock. It turned out that that morning he found out it was impossible for him. He has bad morphology and motility – and in his tissue tests it was confirmed it was scientifically impossible.. I was devasted. I am 37, and he is 54, so I was really looking forward to this.

    I was convinced he just needed love and less stress (he is getting sued from past marriage that he was in a business with) and his other ex wife something gives him gried and he is building up a new business. I know it takes 2 to tango, and he has left over issues, but I really believed that 3 months of less stress and good nutrition and love would heal.

    Her told me to give up false hope and then he didnt want to talk to me. He was crying saying he needed to focus on his business. .. hence my reading on stonewalling. He confirms he love me, sends me love hearts in messages and tells me that he appreciates me, but it felt so horrible the last week. Reading about stonewalling has really helped.. and then I came across this barren article and it reminded me of how he feels.

    I have faith that love and less stress will help. I just feel it, but he doesnt believe he can do anything else.

    Anyway thank you for your article. It helps to read – especially when I cant talk to him right now until he is ok to talk. I fly to be with him at Chirstmas for 3 weeks. He may be ready then.

    • nancysalazar December 6, 2014 at 8:12 pm #

      Hi Diana! Thanks for your comment! I would advise you to talk to your pastor about your relationship. Since I don’t know you and I can’t ask questions, it is unfair to draw conclusions. According to your comment it seems that your partner is being somewhat selfish. He wants to concentrate on his business so now you are being shut out. Guard your heart and pray. The Holy Spirit will guide you into all truth if you let Him. Praying for you!

      • djanamatic December 7, 2014 at 1:25 am #

        Thank you Nancy. He is more hurt than anything and stressed and isn’t coping.
        We finally spoke today. He feels guilty that he cant give me the family I am after. I was brought up to stand by my partner and he wants to focus the next 2 years on building a retirement $. It means a lot of travel all over the world.

        My mother stood by my father even through all the physical abuse, and it set an example to me – even though my partner is not physically abusive. I was taught that is the right thing to do.

        He told me today he cant give me children and he never wants to get married again, and that I deserve someone else.
        However true that might be, it does cut. I don’t like jumping around to relationship to relationship, and want to make things work.

        I have read Love and Respect by E. Eggerichs and have put that into place. It helps a lot and has helped me understand how he needs to be respected and the power of language.

        I think I know what to do and there is only one way and it is out. I see him next week for 3 weeks and at least I will have closure after our discussion. I understand that one person’s behaviour can dramatically change a relationship. The thing is, when he is happy, he is great. When he has court cases, his teenage daughter problems, people trying to sue him, and being a public figure, he cant handle it anymore and he ends up pushing me out because I am the easiest to push away.
        I am really exhausted of this emotionally.
        Thank you for listening. I know all happens for a reason and people are in our lives to teach us. The last 20 months I have grown up considerably and I am grateful my life is free of problems and that I have great health and family.

  2. nancysalazar December 22, 2014 at 8:03 pm #

    Hi Djanamatic! I will keep you in prayer! In life we can’t make someone love us and we can’t change a persons mind. We can pray for them and turn them over to God. The bible tells us to “…cast or cares to God…”

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