EXTRA BAGGAGE RUINS MARRIAGE
If You Are Wrong, Admit it Quickly!
Why do people try to wiggle out of their mistakes?
Some people have a character flaw of being addicted to “being right.”
Flaws exist because they are a RESPONSE to a challenge or a trauma that threatens us .
Character flaws definitely make life much more difficult because you have to carry around a lot of baggage.
The problem with “dodging a bullet”, is that the bullet is still flying around.
The “dodging bullet” still needs to be dealt with and it will probably hit somebody else.
As the “dodging bullet” flies around, you end up losing the respect from those close to you.
You can turn this common flaw into the virtue, HUMILITY.
Phil.2:8 “And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross”
In Phil.2:8, the word “fashion” is the Greek word schema. This was the same word that was used in ancient times to depict a king who exchanged his kingly garments for a brief period of time for the clothing of a beggar.
God almighty shed His glorious appearance and PUT ON the garment of flesh made from dust just for us.
The word “humbled” is the Greek word tapeinao which means to be willing to stoop to any measure that is needed.
Ask yourself what the reward is for being addicted to “being right.”
Addicted to “being right” shows that the person has issues:
Maybe, trying to save face or, holding on to self esteem or, an array of other reasons.
Next time you catch yourself trying to “be right”, take it as an OPPORTUNITY to admit you’re wrong.
How can admitting you are wrong help you?
People being addicted to “being right” often are criticized for not being compassionate and caring about others.
A person who admits they are wrong, are more resourceful because he believes this gives him the insight to develop new capabilities.
CASE AND POINT: I remember we had a guest speaker at church years ago. He told the church that they should always be working on something in their life to be more like Jesus. Just the week before God had showed me an area that I needed to improve. I asked God to reveal to me every time I did that thing he wasn’t pleased with. I allowed the Holy Spirit to convict me and guide my attitude about that area. I was very excited about partnering with the Holy Spirit to work on areas of my life.
Admitting you are wrong creates:
An environment of TOLERANCE towards others,
Open-mindedness to discovering the truth, and
It will point out where you sound STUPID.
Admitting your fault puts you closer to dealing with it.
This could be the first step towards a successful turn-around.
Admitting your fault SHOWS your integrity and courage even if there are consequences.
It is everyone’s responsibility to seek what is right and just. Phil.4:8 “Finally, brethren…whatsoever things are just…think on these things.
From lifehack.org, here are pointers on confessing up and dealing with your mistakes:
- See things from someone else’s perspective: If you’ve made a promise and failed to keep it, put yourself n the other party’s shoes and see how things look from there.
- Be sympathetic: Realize that your mistakes might affect many more people than just you, and recognize the pain you’ve caused. A little bit of sympathy can well be the opening you need to set things right.
- Take responsibility: Don’t try to weasel out of it, and don’t look around wildly for someone else to blame. Even if your failure came about because someone let you down, you’re ultimately responsible for the projects under your authority.
- Accept the consequences: It’s hard, I know, but sometimes you have to bite the bullet and take your lumps. Few actions come without any consequences at all; be prepared to embrace whatever befalls you as a result of the mistakes you’ve made.
- Have a plan: Taking responsibility means being prepared to clean up the mess, which means you need a plan. You should have a clear idea of what went wrong and how you can fix it – and how you can avoid it in the future.
- Be sincere: Don’t pretend to feel sympathy or act phony so that the other person can see how deeply you care. Don’t play the martyr. Show honest emotion—the first step to rebuilding the trust lost.
- Apologize. No, really. A lot of people go to great lengths to make up for their mistakes – or to hide them – when a simple “I’m sorry” would do the job, and cause a lot fewer hard feelings.
Prov.8:12 “Before destruction the heart of a man is haughty (proud), and before honour is humility.”
If you are wrong, admit it quickly!
Yes, admit it!
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