9 Jan


Question #1.  What can I do when my marriage doesn’t meet my expectations?

Answer #1.  When Barbara and I got married, for dinner I expected meat and mounds of mashed potatoes with butter cascading down the sides.  Alas it was not to be!

Barbara leans towards exotic tuna casserole and lots of other things I could not begin to identify, and my expectation soon went up in a puff of smoke.

The truth is, each partner brings a certain set of expectations into a marriage.    When these expectations don’t get met, the drought of disillusionment can dry up the dialogue in the streams of your conversation.  Don’t let it happen to you!

Marriage provides a relationship where two people can hammer out realistic expectations.  Remember, no mate will ever fulfill all of your desires in marriage.  Only One is capable of that, and in His wisdom he has reserved that blessed experience for heaven.

For help here on earth, ask some probing questions.  What expectations of your mate did you bring to your marriage?  Which ones got met?  Which ones didn’t?  How reasonable are they?  What expectation does your spouse have of you?  If you haven’t ever done so, why not consider sitting down and communicating your mutual expectations to each other?  It might be a real eye-opening experience.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

NOTE:  This article is from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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