GETTING YOUR SPOUSE TO UNDERSTAND YOU

30 Nov

GETTING YOUR SPOUSE TO UNDERSTAND YOU

 

 

Any FOOL can criticize, condemn and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. (by Dale Carnegie)

Understanding is shown by both words and actions.

You may want to be understood but do you understand your SPOUSE.

Understanding is an inclination to support or be loyal to or to agree with an opinion.

Prov.2:11 “Discretion will protect you and understanding will guard you.”

The heart of EMPATHY is entering into another’s feelings.

How often do we really do this with our spouse??

There are SOME people in life that are very hard to empathize with.

When people bring things upon themselves, it is hard to have empathy.

Prov.4:7 “Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom.  Though it cost all you have get understanding.”

Here is a list of ways you can show understanding every day.

  • Back off a little if your spouse needs space for a while.
  • When your spouse is trying to talk to you, stop what you are doing and pay close attention.
  • Stay close by when your spouse is worried or sad.  That may be when they need you the most.
  • Look at your spouse in a caring way as he (or she) talks to you.
  • Find time to rest together when your spouse is tired.
  • Listen to your spouse the way you imagine you want to be  listened to.
  • Go out of your way when your spouse needs or wants help.
  • Be sure to tell your spouse that you are trying to see things their way.
  • When your spouse is happy or loving, spend some time together enjoying the good feelings.
  • Listen and show understanding before disagreeing when your spouse is upset.

The Holy Spirit wants to give you understanding for your spouse.

This is VITALLY important for your marriage.

Prov.24:3 “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established.

The word “established” in the Greek means fastened, firm, ready, or set.

If you don’t work towards understanding, you are leaving your marriage without seat belts for safety.

When the enemy comes to destroy your marriage, there will be nothing to hold it TOGETHER.

You can secure it right now.

Don’t keep God and your family waiting.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

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