MARITAL SUPER GLUE

7 Apr

MARITAL SUPER GLUE

An inventor died by the name of Harry Cooper at age 94.  This young chemist, in the 40’s and 50’s, by accident discovered an adhesive which today is known as “Super Glue” and “Instant Crazy Glue.”  From the beginning, it’s remarkable adhesive power has been used for an array of uses:  1.) to seal blood vessels in open heart surgery, 2.) assemble atomic bombs, 3.) leg fractures, 4.) applied to bloody wounds during the Vietnam War, 4.) etc.

One invention has changed the life style for people around the world and has caused a man to be financially set for life.

God our Father, who created (invented) the universe, also created marriage.

As an inventor, God created marital super glue, which is SEX.

Yet with all the books, therapy, clergy, counselors and other help, still over 50% of marriages end in divorce.

To bring some understanding, I will be using comments partly from the book “His needs, her needs” by Williard F. Harley, Jr.  He has collected more than forty thousand questionnaires from clients asking about their sexual history and behavior.

Sex unlocks a man’s EMOTIONS and the woman holds the key.

Harley has found three important differences between men and women when it comes to sex: sexual drive, awareness of their sexuality; and their primary reason to have sex.

1. SEXUAL DRIVE – The average man has a much higher sex drive than the average woman.  This is because the only known aphrodisiac, testosterone, flows in abundance through men while in much shorter supply in women.

Sex usually is a man’s number one emotional need.

2.   SEXUAL AWARENESS – It is the knowledge of how to respond sexually.  Boys tend to explore their sexuality earlier and more often than girls.  By the time they marry, men usually have an advanced sexual understanding than the wife.

Almost every man surveyed enjoyed his first heterosexual encounter, while most women reported finding it a disappointment.

Men know how to respond sexually, while the women haven’t figured it out yet.

The ROOT of many marital problems is that he is more experienced and motivated by strong desires and she is less motivated and experienced.

A man cannot achieve sexual fulfillment in his marriage unless his wife joins him in the sexual experience.

3.  SEXUAL MOTIVATION – With a much higher sex drive, the primary reason men have sex is to relieve their craving.  For women , the primary reason is intimacy and emotional bonding.

Women who are emotionally withdrawn from their husband are notoriously unwilling to have sex with him.

Negotiation begins with a respectful exchange of perspectives, and by discussing these differences with each other.  By searching for ways to make sex fulfilling for both of you, you will be able to find a solution to one of the most common problems in marriage.

SOLVING SEXUAL PROBLEMS

Sexual problems cause tension and unhappiness in many marriages, but these difficulties can be solved pretty easily.

For the wife to enjoy sex, she will need help from her husband.  If he does not communicate his care for her often and effectively, she will feel that he is insensitive and uncaring.

You can’t enjoy your end of a marriage if your spouse can’t enjoy his or her end.

If you care about your spouse, you don’t use or deny your spouse out of selfishness or ignorance.

Meet your spouse’s needs as you would want your spouse to meet yours.

Luke 6:31 “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

MAKE SEX A PRIORITY!!

The following is an article from “Today’s Christian Woman.”  The author shares about her attitude when her husband wanted to make love more often.  She said, “It just wasn’t one of my priorities.”

“I felt what I did all day was meet other people’s needs.  Whether it was caring for my children, working in ministry, or washing my husband’s clothes, by the end of the day I wanted to be done need-meeting.  I wanted my pillow and a magazine.  But God prompted me:  Are the “needs” you meet for your husband the needs he wants met? I realized my husband never complained when things were not getting done at home. I soon realized I regularly said “no” to the one thing he asked of me.  I sure wasn’t making myself available to my husband by militantly adhering to my plan  for the day… I’d been so focused on what I wanted to get done and what my children needed, I’d cut my hubby out of the picture.”

DO YOU REGULARLY SAY “NO” TO THE ONE THING HE ASKS OF YOU??

DO YOU CUT YOUR HUBBY OUT OF THE PICTURE AT NIGHT?

He put his trust in you when he married you that you would be sexually interested in him.

Has it turned out to be the biggest mistake of his life?

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2 Responses to “MARITAL SUPER GLUE”

  1. larryzb April 7, 2017 at 10:34 am #

    “Yet with all the books, therapy, clergy, counselors and other help, still over 50% of marriages end in divorce.” This statistic needs to be put into context. Those who repeatedly marry and divorce skew this percentage, thus you won’t find 50 per cent of those adults who have married being divorced.

    The very serious problem of the wife who acts as gatekeeper or refuser needs to be addressed by the Christian churches. Sadly, these churches are largely silent on the sin of withholding sexual intimacy from one’s spouse.

    • nancysalazar June 24, 2017 at 7:53 pm #

      Hi Larryzb! Thanks so much for your sincere comment! You are right about the church many times avoiding the fact that wives withhold sex from a husband as punishment. Actually, it really isn’t out of punishment most of the time when a wife withholds sex. She feels like a prostitute because her husband is not concerned about pleasing her so she feels less than a prostitute. She thinks, well at least those women get money for it. My husband walks away and doesn’t even care about my needs , letting me have my way at times something is important to me, nor is he concerned about my feelings. This is how a husband can win at sex. God’s word says to love her and treat her like your own body. When a husband is nice, she knows sex is on his mind. The secret is that the husband has everything to his advantage if he only uses it. Women are emotional, love romance, and need a good listener and friendship. These are all the things the husband did before marriage. The problem is that he stops, so she stops. Men are in the lead. So LEAD!! Come home and ask her if there is something you can help her with. If the kids don’t help with their chores, tell them they need to do it and get them to all get up and do it immediately. Do it with them if you need to. Do something she has been asking you to do. The husband thinks he has done enough cause he goes to work and he is tired. The wife is just as tired, if not more because just putting up with her emotions drains her on top of her workplace. When she gets home, she is now there to work again. The husband can be her rescuer by taking her out on a date or to dinner or bringing food home so she can have the night off. Get a CD of her favorite movie. Thank her for her hard work. She is an emotional creature. Meet those emotional needs. She’s not crazy! The husband just isn’t the same person he was when she married him. Neither is she and what I am telling you, I say it to women. I hope this has helped you because it is hard to get the point done in a few words. Bitterness doesn’t make a marriage but LOVE covers a multitude of sin!

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