ONENESS OR ISOLATION IS A MARITAL CHOICE
Isolation is the great killer of marriages.
Many marriages continue for years in a state of armed truce.
Competition replaces cooperation and ugly reality dashes dreams as conflict unravels the fabric of love and concern.
The choice to heal those rifts is yours.
Every day, each partner makes choices that result in oneness or in isolation.
Here are three important choices you need to make:
Choice #1: Resolve to pursue oneness with each other and repent of any isolation that already exists.
Remember, you don’t have to be married a long time to feel isolated.
Choice #2: Resolve to never go to bed angry with one another.
Find a way to resolve your differences and move towards oneness.
Resentment and oneness cannot coexist.
Choice #3: Resolve to take time to share intimately with each other.
Allow your spouse into your life.
Ask questions of your spouse and listen patiently.
Learn the art of healthy, transparent communication.
MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES and you’ll know love, warmth, acceptance and the freedom of true intimacy and genuine oneness.
Make the wrong choices and you’ll know the quiet desperation of living together but never really touching each other deeply. As a couple, resolve that you will not allow isolation to set up residence in your marriage.
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Isolation is not a choice all the time I believe it depends on the situation. There are times you can be married and both partners may be “serving God” yet one may feel completely isolated because the husband/wife may not want to change things for the marriage to be better and stronger. For example: if they resolve not to go to bed angry and the time comes when one they have a discussion and then the ‘not going to bed angry’ goes out the window for one of them. I know in my situation, it’s been like that.
Hi Linda! Thanks for your comment! Our part and purpose as a wife is not to change our husband. That is the job of the Holy Spirit! We pray and do our part. That is all God expects from us. He knows the heart of our spouse and that is what He is working on. During that time we need to have faith and pray. In the mean time, we need to appreciate and applaud their good points.
Thank You, that’s encouragement much needed. 🙂