SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER 4/28/12
Question #1: My husband just made a big mistake. How should I handle it?
Answer #1: In our first month of marriage, Dennis took the initiative to make a small financial investment, and we ended up losing money. As we talked it over and I shared my disappointment, it was obvious Dennis knew he had made a poor choice.
At that point I faced a choice of my own: Would I accept him as my husband, or would I nag him and make him feel like a failure even more?
I realized that God had a plan for Dennis. He wanted to use this mistake to teach Dennis how to depend on Christ and be a better husband. I needed to get out of God’s way and let Him work in my husband’s life.
At times like this, a wife learns that love is not all feelings. This is where you honor your wedding vows and say, “I’m committed to you, no matter what.” That’s what real love is, and that’s what a husband most needs from his wife–especially when he makes a big mistake. He knows he’s failed; what he doesn’t know is if you’ll still accept him and respect him. Make sure you do!
NOTE: This article is from the book Family life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
I remember a time when my husband decided that we were going to move and I felt very strongly that it was not a good idea. I voiced my opinion when he asked for it but he decided to follow through with his idea. I kept my mouth shut! My sister reminded me that God could be honored either way and that if I honored my husbands decision, God would be honored in that. Although the initial reason we moved fell through, we were blessed in so many other ways. God is with us when we honor our husbands. I’ll never forget that lesson, I’m glad I learned it early in our marriage. It has saved us both from a lot of arguing and hurt feelings.
I just want to say too that it hurts my heart when I see a wife nagging her husband. It doesn’t even matter at that point what he did, she always looks like the bad guy. Don’t do it ladies! My mom had a way of whispering when she wanted our attention. We had to lean in and focus to hear and understand. It doesn’t just work with children…
Hi L.Lopez! Thanks for the great comment! What an excellent piece of advice! This is something that we can all learn from. Thank your mom for us.