21 Oct


Do you find that many times when your spouse says something to you, you lose control, and say something out of line?

Instead of listening to your spouse’s point of view, you let your anger speak out of resentment, only to REGRET every word later on.

God knows that these occasions will happen from time to time.

He has the ANSWER in His word.

“…let each one of you (husbands) also must love his own wife as himself, and so the wife must respect her husband.”

This verse is the summary statement of the greatest treatise on marriage in the New Testament.

One of the greatest books on marriage is “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerich.  This book is a must for every marriage.

Without LOVE,  the wife reacts without RESPECT.

Without RESPECT, the husband reacts without LOVE.

In Emerson’s book he calls this the “Crazy Cycle”.

The wife tells herself that she is not going to treat her husband  with respect till he shows her love by doing what she wants.

Then, the husband tells HIMSELF that he is not going to love her by doing what she wants till she starts treating him with respect.

They go around and around and around with neither one pleasing their spouse.

It may sound silly, but it is not FUNNY at all.

It happens in every marriage and it is a marriage killer.

Pride sets in and now every one  is stuck on “STUPID!”

Does that sound familiar?????  Of course it does.

It only takes one partner to get off the “Crazy Cycle” and the cycle stops.

My husband does not like to argue.

However, there are times that we do argue about ISSUES.

I make it a point every day to be the one to get off the “Crazy Cycle.”

If I feel the conversation is starting to get out of control and neither one of us is listening anymore, we are both talking, I choose to stop.

If you love God and care about your marriage, GET OFF THE CRAZY CYCLE..

You have a choice and you cannot blame anyone else for the chaos in your marriage.

My CHOICE is to respect my husband even if he is not showing love by doing what I ask.

Every day I get off the “crazy cycle.”

What about you??


NOTE: Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.


  1. sylvia barraza gouveia October 21, 2011 at 6:36 am #

    i just had to say that this exact thing happen to my marriage and my marriage fell apart and we both fell away from god, my husband and i were seperated a yr but we r serving god now and god has renewed our love. i just wanted to encourage u that it is never too late GOD CAN ALWAYS HEAL AND FIX UR MARRIAGE IF U R HUMBLE AND OBEY WHAT GOD ASKS U TO DO! =)

    • nancysalazar October 21, 2011 at 3:29 pm #

      Hi Sylvia! Thanks so much for your great comment. Your story is one of a miraculous restoration. I am so excited that you have shared it with us! Keep up the great work. Allow the Holy Spirit in your marriage daily. God can do what you cannot!

  2. Martha Navarro October 22, 2011 at 12:13 pm #

    Wow, and Amen! plainly and pwerfullyspoken. What a picture these words paint. Thankyou for this and all that you post in support of our marriages. Love and appreciate your dedication to this work. God Bless you.

    • nancysalazar October 22, 2011 at 6:41 pm #

      Hi Martha! Thanks for your comment and encouragement. Keep the marriages in prayer. Have a blessed day.

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