20 Sep



Your marriage cannot survive without flexibility because it does not allow your spouse to have freedom of expression.

Flexibility is a MUST for every marriage.

In the world, the United States has the highest divorce rate and the women file for divorce twice as much as the men.

One of the reasons is that many women are STUBBORN and demand their own way.

The word “stubborn” appears 28 times in the bible and the word “stiff-necked” about 19 times.   Stiff-necked also means stubborn.

Until stubbornness is overcome, your marital relationship will suffer.

“…stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.  Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD… “  1SAM.15:23

In God’s eyes, a stubborn wife is as guilty as anyone who worships Satan.

If you are being narrow minded, you are having YOUR own way without regard to your spouse’s ideas or feelings.

Wives, be careful to make sure you are obeying your husband, whether he is right and spiritual or not.

Divorce is an epidemic and STUBBORNNESS is an issue of the heart.

Jer.17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure.”

The bible warns that being inflexible to your spouse is folly.

Do you see your IDEAS from their perspective?

Can you listen to your spouses remedies to solve problems in a new and  different way?

Do you ever let your spouse know that you appreciate and understand their VIEWPOINT?

How can you arrive at an agreement or judgment if you have an inflexible perspective.

Is your thinking, attitude and perspective RIGID?

You are leaving your spouse with a feeling of rejection when you say, “I am right and you are wrong.”

The stress you experience in your life is due to inflexibility and your inability to accept change.

When you are flexible you will experience many twists and turns, ups and downs, and uncertainties.

CASE AND POINT:  When my husband and I were asked to be missionaries in England during the early 80’s it was spiritually dead.  We gave up our house, business, furniture along with friends and family to be in the will of God.  Anything and everything we owned had to fit into four suitcases.  As we sat on the plane headed for Manchester, I turned to my husband and asked him what his plan was for building a church in England.  I had given up all my Tupperware and expensive pots and pans we had received as marriage gifts so I was expecting a divine plan to come out of his mouth.  Lol!!  This was his response, “I don’t have a plan.  We will get there and see what happens.”  At that moment I spiritually matured about 40 years.  My spiritual hair turned gray.  I realized I had to be flexible and trust in God.  It worked.  It was definitely one of the highlights of my spiritual life.  I thank God everyday that my husband was sensitive to the Holy Spirit and flexible enough to give up his life to go.

To be flexible, there must be a willingness to take RISKS.

Life is not about survival but about enjoyment in the Holy Ghost.

Your spouse’s different opinion does not make them the ENEMY.

A different opinion is a source of wisdom, knowledge, understanding and the power of the Holy Spirit.

Flexibility is the GIFT that keeps on giving.

Your marriage is worth it.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to give help to make your marriage successful


  1. letty garcia September 20, 2011 at 11:30 am #

    amen… sis but what if i used to be an really bad alcolalic and have been sober for 12 years and now my husban is drinking and im too tempeted .. cuz i couldent take it no more and i had to run..i cant go back to the world. sis . im not talking devorce im just saying im scared that i minght fall if i stay?

    • nancysalazar September 20, 2011 at 2:55 pm #

      Hi Letty! Thanks for your great comment. We are never wrong when we run from sin and I am sure that God has confirmed that with you. One piece of advice that I give to wives who have left their husbands, is not to divorce. Especially if they have children because the father has rights to the children. So many kids get molested by an alcoholic friend of the parent. By not divorcing, you can handle the visitations the way you want. Once they see a lawyer, you have to abide by the law. This is why many wives stay with an alcoholic husband. As long as you do not divorce, God will honor your decisions because you are waiting on him.

  2. Monica Berumen November 17, 2014 at 7:28 pm #

    Wow wow wow I love this because this is what happened when my husband decided to move from the city of El Monte to the city of Hollister he said he kept hearing a small voice telling him to move to Hollister and I as a wife was like do you know what you want to do and he said yes Monica just trust what am saying “I’m serious babe he tells me something keeps telling me to move up north” & now we are here and God has really been revealing himself in many ways and one of them was that small voice which was the HOLYSPIRIT speaking to my husband when we lived in El Monte telling him to get up and move his wife and kids to Hollister Flexibility is the way to go Sis nancy

    • nancysalazar November 18, 2014 at 8:54 pm #

      Hi Monica! Thanks for your comment! What a blessing that your husband is sensitive to God’s spirit and also obedient!

  3. Prakriti Bimali March 3, 2016 at 12:36 am #

    My husband he is good. After father in laws death he is looking for every situation helping others.he is searching for the right business also but instead that also he is quite not flexible in some small cases. Need for reason of the matter.There isnt the cases of its ok like that is not exist. While cooking food also need perfect. What to do with difficult husband. Should i divorce or settle with this boring husband

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