SATURDAY QUESTION & ANSWER 

SATURDAY QUESTION & ANSWER 

Question #1:  We’ve become sexually isolated from one another.  What can I do?

Answer #1: Sexual isolation occurs when two people withdraw and no longer pursue meeting one another’s needs.  Perhaps the wife has found responding difficult and the husband has become angry and bitter.  Resentment replaces growth.  Ultimately the union that God designed as the celebration of oneness erodes into sexual and emotional isolation.

If you have an unresponsive mate:

*  Consider that he or she may be going through a particularly stressful time, which could be caused by pressures at work, the birth of a child, an illness, loss of job, etc.

*  Bitterness, worry or fear can also cause a lack of sexual response.  You may want to ask your mate:

      Is there anything I have done or am doing to inhibit our enjoyment of sex?

     Is there any problem or conflict between us that needs to be resolved?

     Is there anything in your background that is hard to talk about?  Could you share it with me so I could try to help?

*  Make a list of the things that would really please your mate and then begin to do them.

*  Set aside time for frequent getaways.  Barbara and I try to get away for at least two consecutive nights, two or three times a year.

NOTE:  This article was taken from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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