14 Sep


LOVE and CONNECTION is a very important need in your spouse’s life.

Prov.19:22 “What a man desires is unfailing love; better to be poor than a liar”.

This proverb was put in the bible for a reason and if we are determined to be the best God wants us to be, let’s observe it.

This is speaking volumes as to the true desire why your spouse picked you.

He went into this marriage believing that your love for him would never fail.

If you have ever ran out of gas when you are in a hurry, you know how maddening that can be.

I have so many stories of how my husband would run out of gas when we were dating.

I won’t bore you with the stories of how his dad would have to pick us up because I know you have stories of your own.  Lol!!

So let’s get to the nitty gritty!

After you are married for a while, you don’t even care if your “love tank” is dry.

You are now busy with work, kids, hobbies and house duties or your favorite TV program.

CASE AND POINT:  I like to do this illustration in my marriage classes.  I have a woman on stage bouncing a balloon in the air.  That balloon represents her husband.  Then I throw in another balloon to bounce with the other one and that one represents her job or career.  She is still smiling.  Then I throw in another balloon that represents a child.  Now she is really struggling to keep all three within her grasp and keep them all in the air.  By the time I throw in the second child, the balloon that represents her husband is now on the ground and her concentration is on the new balloon I just gave her.  She is now flustered and almost all the balloons are on the floor.

The purpose of this demonstration is for each of us to see what we are doing unconsciously to our spouse.

Women have this idea that the more kids you have, it makes you more of a family and your husband will never leave you.

Then in your frustration with responsibilities and finances you start treating him whatever way you desire.

After all, they are his children also and he should understand.

That might be why God put Proverbs 19:22 in the bible.

It’s a wake up call!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  WAKE UP!

 I don’t like it when you make me yell.  Lol.

Studies show that babies die if they are never touched.

That proves the validity of the Proverbs scripture.

Try to spend a minimum of 14 hours a week (2 hrs. a day) with undivided attention.

It could be anything!  Even going for a walk or watching a movie together.

This is how you fill your spouse’s “love tank”.

These actions make big deposits into your spouse’s “love tank”.

  • Affection and physical touch.  “Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death…” ( Song of Solomon 8:6)
  • Intimate conversation with words of affirmation and quality time. “…Have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.” (1Pet.3:8)
  • Companionship with recreational activities and gift giving.  “…She is your companion, and the wife of your covenant.”  (Malachi 2:14)
  • Total sexual fulfillment.  “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.  Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.” Prov.5:18-19

Don’t gamble with your marriage.

Do you really want to live with someone who has an empty “love tank”?

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

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