14 Aug


Question #1 . What do you do when a spouse only sees the negative things about you and not the positive.  I am blamed for everything that goes wrong.

Answer #1.    (I will answer this with some comments from an article by Dr. Dale A. Robbins and is a publication of Victorious Publications.)

Rom.14:10-13  “Why do you criticize and pass judgment on your brother?  …why do you look down on your brother…then let us no more criticize and blame…”

A “critical spirit” is an obsessive attitude of criticism and fault-finding, which seeks to tear others down.  Constructive criticism is that which is expressed in love to “build up,” not to tear down.  It is always expressed face-to-face, never behind their back.

The person with a critical spirit usually dwells on the negative, seeks for flaws rather than good.  They’re a complainer, usually always upset, and generally have a problem or a complaint about something.  They often have little control over their tongue, their temper, and have tendencies for gossip and slander, which Paul said were sins “worthy of death” (Rom.1:29-32).

What causes a critical spirit?  Negativeness, insecurity, immaturity, an unrenewed mind, and the devil.

What is the prescription for a healthy mind?  The bible doesn’t promise peace to those who dwell on the faults of others.  It says that the Lord will keep them in perfect peace, whose minds are stayed on Him!  (Isa.26:3)

If  your spouse does not read God’s word then you must do it for them.  You stay in God’s word and pray for your spouse.  Pray everyday and bind the “negative spirit” in Jesus name.  You will see results.  Be patient and put your trust in God.

NOTE:  Tomorrows post will have new insights to make your marriage a success.

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