27 Oct


The words resentment and bitterness in the Greek refer to poison.

Resentment is poisonous to your physical health and your mental health.

You can’t build your happiness on your spouse’s unhappiness.

God’s word tells us exactly what to do with “resentment.”

Eph.4:31 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and anger, along with every form of malice.”

I hope you got the message spouses!!??!!

Get rid of it!

Take responsibility for your own actions with the part you played and stop blaming your spouse for everything!

Resentment destroys everyone around you including yourself.

Heb.12:15 “See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God and that no root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by it many be defiled.”

Psychologist Dr. Archibald Hart in his book, “Helping Children Survive Divorce” states that psychology by itself does not have a solution.  He states that only the GOSPEL OF CHRIST is capable of healing the deepest human hurt at its very root.

Resentments destructive power comes from several sources:

  • Resentment never Forgets.

Resentment best fits our “lower nature.”  (animal nature)

We enjoy resentment because it feeds self-pity.

  • Resentment exaggerates all subsequent hurts.
  • Resentment destroys happiness and prevents contentment.

If we were left to our own devices we would self-destruct.

  • Resentments cure is revenge.

Steps to defuse the destructive power of resentment:

  • Dispose of your need for Revenge.
  • Declare your forgiving spirit to your spouse who has hurt you.
  • Deliberately turn your resentment into kindness.

Confess the sin of unforgiveness.

Allow the Holy Spirit to fill and control your life.

When the Holy Spirit is in control, this is the fruit it produces.

  • Love and joy pushes all bitterness out.
  • Peace will come into your soul.
  • Longsuffering will deal with bitterness and any other problems.
  • Gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance are fruits of righteousness.

CASE AND POINT:  I have faults, but one of them is not to be bitter or hold resentment.  I get angry then get over it and forget it.  That is part of my nature.  When my spouse does something and I am feeling very hurt and resentful, I feel ugly inside.  I know that my actions are hurting God.  The last thing I want to do is to quench the Holy Spirit.  The Holy Spirit is all I have in life.  I don’t want to do anything that hurts God.  This is the key that helps and guides my actions.

If you love God, you will not want to hurt your spouse because it hurts God.

Once again, you cannot build your happiness on your spouses unhappiness.


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