10 Oct


EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO FEEL safe and secure with her husband. She needs to feel his commitment to stay married, his commitment to love her and accept her so that she can feel it is safe to give him this gift of who she is in the marriage relationship. In chapter 7, the Shulamite woman says, “I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me” (v. 10). Can you feel her sense of contentment and security?

And then note one of the ways that a husband can foster this sense of security in his wife-by going away with her for a special time away from normal responsibilities.”Come, my beloved,” she says, “let us go forth to the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards…There I will give you my love” (vv. 11, 12). She invites him to go into a secluded spot, and there they are going to have a picnic and enjoy physical food that satisfies hunger and sexual food that satisfied their souls.

This passage demonstrates the power of a romantic getaway. For a husband to meet his wife’s needs, and vice versa, they need to give each other time just to enjoy one another. Stay up late talking without having to get up the next morning,

Barbara and I have committed to going on getaways like this at least a couple of times each year. We have three purposes for these weekends away. The first is to spend time together with one another and with God-just a quiet time to listen to the Lord, to pray together, to sit and be quiet. A good portion of a weekend getaway might be just sitting by a fire with our feet propped up. We don’t go anywhere, don’t answer phones…we just sit quietly and talk if we feel like it, or we read a book. Or we might take a long walk and talk about whatever we want.

A second purpose for our getaways is planning. We pull out the calendar and we talk about where we’re headed for the next week, the next month, the next six months, and the next year. We talk about vacations, work trips, family reunions, anything we need to talk about.

And then the third purpose is romance and pure pleasure. Just an opportunity to reconnect, soul to soul, heart to heart, and yes, body to body.

Getaways like these are a good time to get away and enjoy romance and a refreshing of our relationship with one another.

NOTE:  This article is from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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