12 Sep


What is a oneness marriage?  A Oneness Marriage is a husband and wife who are working to craft intimacy, trust, and understanding with one another.  It’s a couple that is chiseling out a common direction, common purpose, and common plan for their lives.

Oneness Marriage demands a lifetime process of relying on God and forging an enduring relationship according to His design.  It’s more than a mere mingling of two humans; it’s a tender merger of body, soul, and spirit.

Every  Oneness Marriage feature three foundational components.  King Solomon spoke of the mortar of the marriage merger in Proverbs 24:3,4, “Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

1.  A Oneness Marriage needs wisdom.  Wisdom is skill in everyday living.  It means that we respond to circumstances according to God’s design.  A wise home builder recognizes God as the architect and builder of marriages.  As we ask God for wisdom and search the Scriptures, He supplies the skills to build our homes.  King David warns, “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it” (Psalm 127:1).  For many the architect and builder of their marriage is self, so it’s no wonder so many marriages fail.

2.  A Oneness Marriage needs understanding.  Understanding means responding to life’s circumstances with insight, a perspective that looks at life through God’s eyes.  Understanding your mate through God’s perspective results in acceptance of your differences and  beginning to learn how God uses your mate to complement you.  Understanding produces compassion for your partner.  It will give you insight to lead wisely or to follow prudently.

3.  A Oneness Marriage needs knowledge.  We live in an information age.  Our culture practically worships information, but information without application is an empty and powerless deity.

A godly kind of knowledge fills homes with “all precious and pleasant riches.”  It’s more than mere information; it’s a knowledge that results in deep convictions and habitual application.  It’s a true teachable spirit that applies God’s blueprints amidst the raw realities of life.

What do many of us need in order to apply to our marriage what we’ve learned?  Accountability.  We need someone who will break through the fences we build and our crowded loneliness and ask us if we are applying in our marriages what we’re learning.

NOTE:  This article is from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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