25 Jun


We know all too well the mindset that prompted Job to cry out, “May the day perish on which I was born, and the night in which it was said, ‘A male child is conceived'” (Job 3:3)

Both Barbara and I have on occasion closeted our discouragement.  Instead of working out the dark emotions, we try to tuck it all away, like a box full of Christmas ornaments in an obscure closet.  The problem is that unresolved discouragement and disillusionment can easily replace faith and expectancy.  We’ve found that it’s much healthier, spiritually speaking, if we open the closet door, bring them out and discuss our disappointment.  With God first, but also with another.

Do you closet your own disappointment with God?  Do you ever become dishonest with God and put on an external spiritual veneer that says, “All is well”?

Unprocessed discouragement results in mistrust—and at this critical point the enemy of our souls has us exactly where he wants us.  Paralyzed in unbelief from the neck down, our eyes see and our minds know what we ought to believe, but the faith of our hearts lies frozen.  And a subtle mistrust of God sets in.

Dealing with “Why did God allow that?” is never easy.  But in a relationship where expectations have gone unmet and discouragement has taken up residence, it is essential that the problem be processed.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

NOTE:  This article is  from the Book “Family Life and Marriage Bible” by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.


  1. Yovetta June 25, 2016 at 4:13 am #

    Man this is me. I always keep things in and appear to be strong in every area of my life. When things bother me I don’t confront them and everyone thinks all is well with me. I see and face a lot of things I don’t think are right but I don’t deal with them. I am pray to God to please help me with this pretense that l have allowed to take root in me. Info get discouraged in a lot of areas. Help me God to be open with others who will help me through.

    • nancysalazar June 25, 2016 at 4:22 pm #

      Thanks for your truthful comment Yovetta! This is common with all of us. God’s word says for us to be “…slow to speak and slow to wrath.” Discouragement and disillusionment is all a part of life. “God’s ways are not our ways.” That is where trust and faith comes in. God rewards us for our faith to trust in Him. Put your trust in God and not man. As pastors we can spend years entrusting people in leadership ministry, then they turn around and violate their position along with the privilege God has given them. We can’t trust people, but we can trust God! He takes a mess and fixes it! GIVE HIM TIME!!

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