22 May


A handsome thirty-something husband and wife team told me how they finally understood how their differences complemented one another.  The husband explained, “My wife is a prosecuting attorney.  I felt like she prosecuted from eight to five and persecuted from five to eight!

“In the year and a half we have been married, I found out she is a strong woman.  I had hoped I could pressure her to change—if I persevered, I might be able to beat her down.  But I have finally understood that I don’t have to compete with her.  I can let her be who she is, and not feel insecure about who I am.”

That husband has come to understand how he and his wife balance each other.  He realizes he can lead her, even though at times she might challenge him, but that even this is good for him.

Understanding your mate from God’s perspective results in acceptance of his or her differences and beginning to learn how God made that person to complement you.  Understanding produces compassion for your partner.  It will give you insight to lead wisely or to follow prudently.  Understanding builds, oneness by establishing the relationship on a foundation of common insight.

NOTE:  This article came from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

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  1. Tiffany Randall May 22, 2016 at 10:28 pm #

    I love this because I tend to always be the ” attorney” in my marriage and my husband may feel that he can’t lead me but he can. I struggle with following due to a really bad past relationship. Are there any Bible verses that can really help me understand my role as a wife and how I can learn to follow my husband?

    • nancysalazar May 31, 2016 at 7:20 pm #

      Hi Tiffany! Thanks for your great comment! God wants to help you be the wife that you desire to be. Second marriages carry issues because of the past relationship. You have a tendency to reflect back but unfortunately now you put pressure on your new spouse. You tell yourself that this time you are not going to take anything off this guy. You had enough nonsense with the first one and you are not going to take it off this one. Take a deep breath and identify yourself with Christ, NOT your first husband along with all the complications. You are a new creation in a new marriage. Give your husband a fair chance because he deserves it. Read the love chapter, 1Corinthians 13 every day. That is how you are suppose to treat him. He doesn’t need a lawyer. He needs, a cheerleader, a friendly friend, a BFF, a soft pillow to rest his head on when he comes home. HE DESERVES IT!! Is it worth going thru another divorce just because you don’t listen to his concerns because you are busy ready to attack. The enemy gets right in the middle of all marriages. Ask the Holy Spirit to control your actions and speech. He loves your marriage and wants to guide you into a beautiful marriage. Praying for you Tiffany! You go girl!!! You can do it! I have!!

      • Tiffany Randall May 31, 2016 at 7:26 pm #

        Thank you so much Nancy for this, you have really touched a special place in my life and I really appreciate your advice.

  2. nancysalazar May 31, 2016 at 7:36 pm #

    You are welcomed! We are all in this together. To God, your marriage is ” sacred”. Anything that is sacred to God is under attack by the enemy. DON’T give him a foothold. God bless you Tiffany!

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