SATURDAY Q & A

30 Jan

SATURDAY Q & A

Question #1.  How specifically can I build up my spouse–especially when I feel critical?

Answer #1.  I often look to Proverbs 18:21 as a good reminder of the power of words.  It says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”   It’s a simple choice–you can either choose to give life with your words, or give death.  This is especially true when it comes to your spouse.

Sometimes it’s easy, even automatic, to pick out wrong things your spouse does.  But how about this instead?  The next time you start to criticize your spouse for doing something wrong, think about the last time you praised him or her for something he or she did right.

One word  of caution: don’t falsely flatter your spouse, or insincerely attempt to compliment him or her.  It is better to find two or three things that you honestly admire than to lavish praise that is undeserved.

We all need someone on our team, someone who’s pulling for us during the tough times.  There’s a special comfort and security in knowing your spouse will cheer for you, even when the world is dragging you down.

NOTE:  This question and answer came from the book “Family Life and Marriage Bible” by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.

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