SELF-ESTEEM BUILDING FOR SPOUSES

5 Aug

SELF-ESTEEM BUILDING FOR SPOUSES

 

Your personal worth sets the limit on how successful your accomplishments are on your marriage.

Your greatest POSSESSION is to have a healthy self-esteem.

There is a need inside each one of us to be or feel like a special person and especially from our spouse.

You will grow and mature to be what God wants you to be if your FOUNDATION is built on a strong self-image.

It takes time to correct things that are wrong in your life and in your marriage because no one matures instantly.

To mature physically, spiritually and emotionally sometimes comes PAINFULLY.

In Christ, you are his unique creation and your marriage is unique.

Remember, your self-image is what you think you are.

Your self-image is not what you are.

Your self-image is not what others think you are.

There is an array of sources that you should not be basing your feelings on about yourself: family, other people, physical traits, talents/abilities, failures, etc.

Feelings of guilt and failure, many times come from setting up high expectations for ourselves.

This defected foundation needs to let God rebuild it.

 

STEPS TOWARDS A

HEALTHY SELF-ESTEEM

  1. Let yourself, Love yourself.
  2. Be the person God intended you to be.
  3. Stop comparing yourself to others.
  4. Honestly estimate yourself.  Assess strengths and weaknesses.
  5. Don’t condemn yourself.
  6. Don’t have high expectations for yourself.
  7. Forgive yourself.
  8.  Accept God’s forgiveness.
  9. Towards others, have an attitude of forgiveness.
  10. Towards others, have an attitude of love.
  11. Do things that will make you like yourself more.
  12. Choose realistic goals.
  13. Seek God’s praise for what you do.
  14. Don’t seek praise from others for what you do.
  15. Build up others with your gifts and abilities.
  16. Surround yourself with friends that build you up.
  17. Do not put yourself around people who tear you down.
  18. Build up those around you.
  19. Let God shape you into the person he wants you to be.
  20. Thank God for his never-ending love for you.
  21. Thank God for the future he has prepared for you.

NOTE:  More marital encouragement on tomorrows post.

NOTE:  Some comments for this post was taken from the book, Perfect in His Eyes, by Kay Marshall Strom

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2 Responses to “SELF-ESTEEM BUILDING FOR SPOUSES”

  1. Catalina August 5, 2015 at 8:16 am #

    I love reading your posts, Sister Nancy! #12 regarding setting up goals really spoke to me. I have always worked hard and had goals I wanted to accomplish by a certain age, They were very realistic. One of my goals was to buy a home by the time I hit 30 years old. At the age of 29 I was approved for a home that would be comfortable for me and my daughter at a payment that I could afford. My then fiancé really didn’t say much about me buying a home, which kind of bothered me. Why wouldn’t he be proud that I am accomplishing a goal I set out to accomplish? For some reason none of my bids were accepted, even when I slightly over bid! One day one of the sisters in the church told me how her and her husband tried to purchase a home and the simplest things kept them from doing so, she told me “It was not the right time for us to buy a home and it may not be time for you neither but trust God”. That was the last thing I wanted to hear! Eventually I gave up on looking at houses. I am now married and my husband and I are in the middle of escrowing to purchase a home that is truly perfect for us and I can honestly say that God has made everything work out! He has removed every hurdle and is giving us a home that is perfect in every way. Recently my husband told me he was happy that I didn’t buy a home without him which is way he didn’t say much when I was looking before we got married. He wanted to be there to help pick out our home and wants to fix the house exactly the way I want. God has shown me that my goals may be very realistic, but it may not be what he wants for me… he wants to give me something better at the right time, not mine.

  2. Monica Berumen August 5, 2015 at 12:03 pm #

    Once again thank you sis Nancy your the best 😘

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