HUSBANDS ARE NOT IRONMAN
We already discussed meekness.
Developing meekness assists us so “we are not angered” by others.
Developing a quiet spirit assists us so “we don’t anger” others.
1Pet.3:4 “…The ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
Listen to Proverbs.
Prov.16:23 “The heart of the wise instructs his mouth.”
This is saying learn to LISTEN!
When you listen to your spouse, you understand them better because you are learning about them.
What happens when you listen?
YOU: Learn, understand and act rather than react.
SPOUSE: Feels understood, opens up more and gets healed.
We need to STOP, and LISTEN so that we can hear and understand our partners concerns.
Prov.10:31-32 “The mouth of the righteous flows with wisdom…The lips of the righteous brings forth what is acceptable.
Prov.15:23 NLT “Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time.”
As a wife, you can tell when you have said the right thing and have spoken into your husbands life.
Prov.25:15 “Patience and gentle talk can convince a ruler and overcome any problem.”
James 1:19 “…let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:”
The word “hear” in the Greek, means to UNDERSTAND.
Prov.18:15 “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, the ears of the wise seek it out.”
Listening is part of the burden process.
Gal.6:2 “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
You cannot bear one another’s burdens till you know what they are.
By listening you will learn.
Here are the listening steps:
1. Your spouse tells you their concerns and what is happening in their life.
2. You listen
3. Your spouse feels understood and shares even more.
4. You understand your spouse better, and fervently pray for them.
5. They gain insight and get healed, which empowers them.
James 5:16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.”
I know you think your husband is the “Ironman” but empathize with him.
He will LOVE YOU for it!!! You forgot already? You’re his GIRLFRIEND!
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Thank you for this Sister Nancy. It seems like we get so busy as women because we are multi-taskers. Ive been guilty of doing other things while my husband is talking to me whether its checking my email or folding laundry or whatever. This showed me the importance of stopping what Im doing and listening:)
Hi Nikki! Thanks for your great comment! It is so truthful and a mistake that all us wives do. The important thing is to keep going forward. And that is just what you are going! Love you!