It is said that if you ask a woman to describe what she wants in a husband, she will describe her best friend.
Well I’m glad my husband wasn’t looking for a wife that was like his best friend cause a “Tarzan” I am not.
Malichi 2:14b “”…She is your companion and your wife by covenant…”
The dictionary shows the pan in the middle of the word companion. Pan is the word for bread. Bread is a comfort food. The dictionary has the definition for companion as one who accompanies another.
The Hebrew root word for companion implies intimate partner; accomplice.
THIS EXCITES ME!!!
I’ll tell you why. It is because God made something in husbands that will make them want to be with their wife. And vice versa. He made something in wives that makes them want to be around their hubbies.
YeeHaa! Is that the way you spell it? I don’t know!?! In Los Angeles they say, “What it is”. I think?
I have heard wives tell me for over 40 years, “I don’t know what my husband wants?”
Okay, listen up girls. I’ll tell you!
He wants his GIRLFRIEND back! The one he married. He wants his FRIENDLY FRIEND. He wants his CHEERLEADER!
Has anyone seen her??? Well he hasn’t either for a long time. POOR GUY!
You know that game “‘Where in the world is Waldo? Well where in the world is ____________________.
Maybe she is watching the Food Network Channel. No? Maybe she is texting her entourage instead of paying attention to her husband. No? Maybe she is Shopping. No? Maybe she is busy with the children. No?
Right now I have your attention. You are saying all sorts like:
“I work hard and I am tired when I get home.”
“How do I know what he wants to do? He doesn’t even talk to me.”
“I have kids and they have needs. What am I suppose to do?”
“He has his own hobbies and friends and could care less what I do!”
“I’ll be honest, he is just boring. I do my thing and he does his.”
“I tried. He doesn’t want to be with me.”
“I have other things that are more inspiring than to spend time with him.”
“He is fine just the way he is. Don’t rock the boat.”
“Oh! All of the above.”
Ok girls, I’ll mind my own business (MYOB). I have an assignment for you wives that are any of the above. It’s easy. All you need is a black marker. Are you ready? This is easy!! Start marking out of your bible all the verses that call you a companion or a helpmeet. Don’t forget Proverbs 31. The virtuous woman whose husband is known in the gates, his heart safely trusts in her, he has no lack of gain, she does him good and not evil all the days of her life, and he praises her because of all her thoughtfulness. Don’t forget Song of Solomon, etc.
Now for the wives that don’t have a black marker in their hand. Ask him what he wants to do. Sit and watch football with him. Go see those movies where everything blows up. Go visit your in-laws with him. Go to a game with him. Learn about his hobby or sport. Go sit with him in the garage while he exercises. Seem interested and ask him questions about what he likes. Smile at him. Give him gifts (small and not expensive). Go for a walk with him. Tell him you love him. Listen to him. Listen to him. Listen to him.
Read this once: If you don’t find a babysitter for your children, your husband will find a babysitter for him.
Where in the world did his GIRLFRIEND go? God expects you to be his CHEERLEADER, his FRIENDLY FRIEND!
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