WEAK HUSBANDS AND DOMINANT WIVES
No one would have dreamed Brad and Sue had marriage problems.
From the outside, their relationship looked perfect.
He was outgoing and handsome with a gentle, personable manner.
She was fun-loving and family-oriented, faithful to God and Brad.
Everyone loved being around them because they were so easy to get along with, but no one noticed their deteriorating marriage.
Sue had first been attracted to Brad because of his sweet, gentle nature–but before long it began to irritate her.
People were drawn to his kindness, so they went to him with their problems.
He was a great listener but lacked the character and convictions to provide any solid answers.
He was a people-pleaser.
He wouldn’t lead.
That lack of leadership was the root of a problem that grew between Brad and Sue.
She appreciated his good qualities but found herself losing more and more respect for him.
She took her frustration out on him by complaining.
She nagged him about the things he wasn’t doing.
She needled him about his lack of leadership.
Brad resented her remarks and attitude and resisted making the changes she wanted to see.
Brad was partly at fault.
He was falling short of God’s call for men to lead their wives in a righteous, sacrificial manner.
But Sue was as much of the problem as Brad.
From the start of their relationship, it was her dominant personality that enabled him to be passive.
Rather than keeping her naturally aggressive and opinionated personality in check, she exploited Brad’s personality.
She used it to dominate him.
At one point, he had seemed to enjoy her strong personality and opinions, but now he resented them.
Sue was confused.
Brad was frustrated.
Neither was happy.
The problem was that Sue wanted to control Brad.
As Dr. Marlin Howe once wrote, “I have never yet met a woman who respected a man she could control. So from her innermost soul swells a basic need to disrespect her husband, to find fault with him.”
Along the same lines, a man will struggle to love a woman who controls him.
When this happens, the man tends to ignore her or seek significance elsewhere.
Both spouses end up pushing each other away.
The solution is for the man and woman to return to the roles God has designed for us in marriage: a husband leading with Christ-like love and a sacrificial spirit.
The woman dependent on his leadership and supporting him as his helpmate and companion.
Let Brad and Sue’s story be a warning.
They had the best of intentions but ended up miserable.
What about you?
Are you fulfilling the role God desires you to play in your marriage?
NOTE: This article was given by Lisa Banks but written by Jimmy and Karen Evans from “Marriage Today”.
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Hi L.Lopez! Thanks for your comment! Jimmy and Karen Evans have great wisdom for marriage.
same situation same problem. Our relationship is dying. pls help us. should i give up and stop my ambition to live better. or should my husband study or change his attitude. which one is better way. i think both are importont. but you know. We can’t solve this problem. give us your advice pls.
Hi Ariuka! You can have a great marriage! God’s word says that “love covers a multitude of sins”. We have an enemy that has an agenda to destroy our marriage. Your husband probably loved your leadership qualities. However, like the saying goes, “We are all tolerable in small doses.” After being bossed around for a long period of time, a man no longer looks at it as being “sexy!” You need to let him make his mistakes. He managed to make it through life up to this point without you. You need to concentrate on why you married him! You found great characteristics. He still has those. Stay out of his business! Let him make his mistakes! What makes you think your way is better? There are no two brains alike. Read the book by Dr. Christina Leaf “The gift in you”. Agree to disagree and go about your business. It is better to have God’s love in your marriage than to be a miserable divorcee! Praying for your marriage! You can do it!!! God is with you!