PAYBACK DAY!
Everyone LOVES payday!
Especially, if there is a shoe sale going on somewhere within a 20 mile radius. Well, for the girlfriends anyway!
Many women get that same “rush” on payback day.
What is payback day? That is the day when you get to act like a “junkyard dog!”
Has your husband ever done something that got you so FURIOUS?
You have decided that when you are through with him, he will never mess with you again.
You start to contemplate EVIL.
The apostle Paul has a word from God for all us “out of control” wives.
1Pet. 3:9 “Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”
In this verse, Paul is talking to married people with DESTRUCTIVE actions in progress.
The Greek words actually mean “Stop it! Don’t do it anymore! You should never do this!”
The word “evil” projects the ideas of INSULT, INJURY, HURT, and DAMAGE.
This would be a spouse that considers herself mishandled, violated, defiled, or humiliated.
I’m not going to tell you that no marriage is PERFECT!
But, NO marriage is perfect!
Luke 17:1 “Then said He unto his disciples, it is impossible that offenses will come…”
This is our warning that we, definitely will be offended by our spouses at some time or another.
God is trying to give us INSIGHT here.
He knows that satan will use bait as an opportunity to draw us into a pit of unforgiveness.
So how am I suppose to act when I am violated??
1Pet.3:8 “Finally, be ye all of ONE MIND, having COMPASSION one of another, LOVE as brethren, be PITIFUL, be COURTEOUS.”
This is a list of FIVE ATTITUDES desirable in Christian marriages.
First, spouses should be united in a common outlook and with common interests.
Second, spouses should have compassion, which basically means “suffering together.”
Third, spouses should love each other as brothers in the family of God.
Fourth, spouses should be tenderhearted or affectionately sensitive.
Fifth, spouses should be courteous or humble-minded.
A right word from you can TURN YOUR WHOLE MARRIAGE AROUND.
Do you really want to attack and tear down your spouse?
If you let the Holy Spirit have His way in your life, you will speak BLESSINGS over your spouse.
Your words will become the very FORCE that will turn your marriage around.
DON’T, DON’T, DON’T ever participate in PAYBACK DAY!
NOTE: Don’t miss tomorrows post!! Daily there is a new post!
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Thank you, Nancy, for your ministry! Good is helping me grow because of what He has led you to do. I thank God for you every day, I need this! He led me to find your ministry, as He has others. Thank you for allowing the Father to work through you, you are making a very real difference in my life. May God continue to bless you, lady!
With heartfelt thanks,
Teri Price-Gray in Suffolk, VA
Hi Mabellynn! Thanks so much for your comment and your encouraging words. God gets the glory! I am not a writer, but just a woman who has a passion for spouses. In Christ, we have a 100% chance to have a successful marriage. Keep fighting for your marriage and put the Holy Spirit in the center.
Thank you sister Nancy for your dedication to your blog cause it has helped me tremendously, last week was our 33rd wedding anniversary and I could not have done it without the Lord’s help and without your blog cause I have learned a lot from it. May the Lord continue to bless all you do and know that I appreciate you and Pastor Richard very much for all your dedication to the fellowship.
Hi Martha! Thank you so much for your comment and encouragement about the blog. What a great testimony 33 years of marriage. Your marriage glorifies God! It doesn’t get any better than that. I am so proud of you. Keep up the good work! Love you dearly!!
This one hits home and I have to ask God to help me with offences done to me I’m not vindictive person but its hard for me to forget the hurtful things tht cut deep you know?
Hi Linda! Thanks for your comment. I appreciate your truthfulness. It is hard for all of us to forget hurtful things. You may never forget, but it gives you another opportunity to forgive. We are never as much like Christ than when we have forgiven some one who offended us.The only way to do that is by the leading of the Holy Spirit. With God, this is possible. It frees you!