STEPPARENTING IS A DIFFICULT TASK
If you or your spouse have children from a first marriage, you are taking on a very difficult task.
I have taken a portion from the book,”Helping Children Survive Divorce” by Dr. Archibald D. Hart.
Your family will need to make a series of important adjustments.
These adjustments fall into three clearly identifiable phrases.
First, there is the “honeymoon” phase.
Everyone is polite to each other.
The atmosphere may be a little strained, but no outward friction is evident yet.
Second, there is the “conflict” phase.
The honeymoon is over and reality emerges.
Everyone is short-tempered, impatient, and intolerant even of small mistakes.
Little things irritate, and at times it seems as if the family will blow apart.
Third, There is the “contented” phase.
If the marriage survives the second stage, a final contented stage emerges.
All the necessary adjustments have been made, the corners have been knocked off tempers, and the irritating habits of the new spouse have become acceptable to all.
At last, familiarity brings comfort.
Making it to the third stage requires careful attention to the following points:
* Do not force a new spouse to become a substitute parent to your children, even if your ex-spouse has totally abandoned this role.
* Don’t rush the second phase of the remarriage process.
* Keep communication with your children open at all times.
* Don’t take sides, either with your children or with your new spouse.
* Remind your new spouse that it is very normal for children, especially in the early stages of remarriage to feel a sense of betrayal and to be angry.
* Keep all discipline free of anger.
Please note that we make every effort to encourage people not to divorce. Children suffer even through adulthood. This is to help those who have already remarried or are thinking of remarriage. It is a long hard road and there is a 74% divorce rate. This is to help those who have already remarried.
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