SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER 8/25/12
Question #1. Marriage has seemed to dull our romantic creativity—what should we do?
Answer #1. At some point in almost every marriage, a couple realizes that they just don’t experience the same romantic feelings they once enjoyed.
Romance is the sugar and spice of marriage. It is the fire in the fireplace—the warm response of one spouse to another that says, “We may have struggles, but I love you, and everything is okay.” We can enjoy the warmth of our love for one another, even in the midst of the chilling winds of difficult times.
Romance should be a part of our everyday marriage experience. Proverbs 5:18, 19 tells husbands, “Rejoice with the wife of your youth, as a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times. And always be enraptured with her love.”
That’s a powerful image–literally, to be enraptured with your mate. This type of romance is part of what sets a marriage apart from just a friendship. Barbara is my friend, but a side from our relationship goes way beyond that. We share a marriage bed and we dream thoughts and share intimacies that are reserved only for us!
God designed the marriage relationship, to experience exhilaration with your most intimate of friends, your spouse. Don’t settle for less.
NOTE: This article is from the book Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
So a follow up question would be, so what do you do when a spouse does not respond to any request for time, so that intimacy, romance, & friendship can grow?
First, fervent prayer. It does work but you have to wait on God (1Pet.5:6-7). Rather than looking for her to change, ask God what you can change in you. Practice Eph.5:33. I am not blaming you, but I want you to know that you are not powerless. God wants for your marriage what you want, yet it takes putting your marriage first. Listen to what she likes and do it with her. Take her to where she wants to go. Do what you did when you were first dating. When we get stressed about our marriage, we think only of ourselves. Then fact that you care is a blessing. Plead the blood of Jesus over your marriage and partner with the Holy Spirit. I will be praying for your marriage.
Thank you for responding so quickly; 1 Pet.5:6-7 is what I chose to do because I realized that my focus shifted for a while, & Eph 5:33 is what was revealed to me in Dr. Eggerichs book (Love & Respect). After listening to the concepts, my inner peace increased, and it made more of sense.
There seem to be some misconception in my question; marriage was always a priority, always did what was asked of me, but when I asked, I am ignored & disregarded. As previously stated, I’ll let the father handle it and I’ll focus more on his word, salvation, continue to ask for grace & mercy, and follow Eph 5:33.
Sincerely,
Mark
Hi Mark! I am thrilled that you have read Eggericks book. I think it is the greatest Christian book on marriage. It proves that one person can change their marriage by getting off the crazy cycle. 1Pet.5;6-7 Shows that first we must humble ourselves. We do this by putting our problem into God’s hand and letting Him handle it instead of us. in “due time” means that we will wait and trust God as He works out all the details, HIS WAY! Then we “cast” it Gods way by throwing it into His palm. Then we rest in Him, knowing that “He cares” for us. God bless your marriage.