WIVES WANT TO BE UNDERSTOOD?
Do you want some PEACE? Do you want to be UNDERSTOOD?
Take a few moments to read this post today
This will change your marriage and your life!!
I have to first tell you what I believe to be one of the best, if not the BEST BOOK ON MARRIAGE. “Love & Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.
This is a must for every marriage. I recommend for each spouse to have their own copy and to write in it what God is showing you.
I will try and share some of the comments that are in his book with you.
CASE AND POINT: This book changed my marriage and gave me the confidence that I could be the wife that I wanted to be and that God wanted me to be. It is still my decision to apply the principles and Gods word to my marriage. What I loved best, was the knowledge that I could turn my marriage around just by doing my part. I don’t need a perfect husband, I just need to be obedient to Gods word!
THIS WORKS SO “LISTEN UP”!!
There is one scripture that will change everything, Ephesians 5:33.
Eph.5:33 “…let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she respect her husband.”
This is God’s MARRIAGE TREATISE and you need to mark it in your bible.
Every month I speak at the Los Angeles County Women’s Jail in Lynwood. Any woman getting arrested in L.A. County goes to this jail. Every month I tell the women this verse and tell them how they can turn their marriage around just on their own by respecting their husband. I also have purchased this book and the chaplain gives them to any wife that asks for it.
For every 100 inmates, there are 200 children that will end up in a divorced home. The statistics show that 50% of inmates have spouses that divorce them while in jail. The other 50% who don’t end up divorced, a year after they get released, 75% of them end up in divorce. So these children are first struggling with a parent being in jail, then they have to cope with living with just one parent or no parents. After that, then coping with a divorce. Just one of those issues is traumatic, but they are expected to deal with all three.
This is why I go to the jail, and this is the burden that God has laid on my heart. PLEASE PRAY FOR THESE KIDS!!!
The journey to a satisfying marriage is NEVER OVER, so submit yourself wholeheartedly to Gods design for marriage.
There is no limit to the extent that you can IMPROVE your marriage.
Remember your husband was made to be respected and he expects to be respected.
When respect does not occur, he reacts WITHOUT LOVE.
This is the CRAZY CYCLE.
Paul is saying in Ephesians 5:33 that wives need love and husbands need respect.
A wife is called to love even an unloving husband but it makes it especially hard to respect him.
The “Crazy Cycle” is described in Eccles.7:25 “…the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness.”
Be careful wives, because expressing dislike to your husband concerning something, can be interpreted as DISRESPECT.
God made us to be a link and he gifted us and entrusted us to do a good job.
YOU GO GIRL!! We can do all things through Christ!!
NOTE: Daily there is a need post to help your marriage be a success.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Sister Nancy – The “crazy circle” , I’m going to remember those words and do what God wants me to do… thanks
Hi Belinda! Thanks for your great comment! I loved your words, “and do what God wants me to do.” That is it in a nutshell!!! Love you!
i read this whole book. I agree the best book. I can tell u god spoke to me big time some good some bad.as hard as it is to admit i had no respect for my husband. Ouch! But its not to let to start. God is doing a miracle in my marriage. Along with that i start the love dare and it came to a part where you where to name 3 things that irritated or Made you feel uncomfortable and believe it or not all the things he listed hardly to do with respect. I will not forget what one of your comments or blogs said, continue to fight you will have time to rest in heaven i keep reminding myself of this also fighting the good fight and LOVING it
Hi Basketball Wife! Thanks for your great comment. Isn’t it such a great experience to know you can change your marriage by changing your outlook. It is so great to have guidelines on what to do. I love it. Before I started to learn about marriage, I figured “It is what it is.” Now I can be the wife I want to be and know how to please the man I desired to spend the rest of my life with. The bible says, “With out knowledge the people (marriage) perish.” Fight the good fight, it is worth it!
I read the statistics of the children and how sad it is that the enemy makes us believe that we have no hope, I can tell you that our 4 sons were once these statistics. I have to say this and it is straight from the heart of someone who has been in this situation ( ME) Please don’t ever allow yourself to believe that divorce is the solution, IT IS NOT!! Sister Nancy, Thank You very much for your devotion to our marriages, I know that with God nothing is impossible, and yes thru Christ we can do all things!!! I was very very BLESSED to be able to re-marry my husband after being divorced from him for about 10 years, BUT there was much pain and suffering on behalf of our sons, their ages were 18mos, 6yrs, 9 yrs, and 12yrs. how horrible this was for them, I tell you this to save a family from the pain our family went thru. Please if your contemplating divorce do not rely on your understanding but lets do what GOD would want and thats fighting the good fight until the end our husbands and our children are so so worth it, and as Basketball Wife states we will rest when we get to heaven!!!
Again Sisiter Nancy we LOVE YOU and God bless you and allow you to help us keep fighting for our marraiges and children!!!!!
Hi Christina! Love your comment. It just doesn’t get better than that. If that doesn’t open up our eyes and heart to God, nothing else will. The bible says the blessings and curses go down to the third and fourth generations. I didn’t say that, Gods word does. I want blessing for all the generations to come. For my spiritual children as well. Love you!