22 Feb



And you do have two lovers also.

Yes you do and I will tell you exactly who they are:  The flesh and the spirit.

They do not like each other and they don’t get along.

Gal.5:17 “For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.”

Every day and all through the day, our soul has a choice to obey what the spirit of God is telling us or obey what our flesh wants us to do.

This is exactly how and why fights and arguments start in marriages.

That is why it says in Lev.18:18 and repeats it in Gal.5:14 “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”

If you don’t, you kill something inside your spouse. It hurts hours, days and years after it has been said.

And wives don’t exclude yourself by saying that men are not sensitive and nothing hurts them.  DON’T YOU DARE!!

We are to never assume what our husbands are thinking.

My husband told me once to never tell someone what he is thinking.

The reason is that I  don’t know what he is thinking.  I can only know what he is saying.  It is so UNFAIR to do that.

When I am talking with a wife and she starts telling me what her husband is thinking, I stop her.  Then I have her repeat exactly what he has said.

Many times it is very hard for the wife to repeat what he has said because the DUDE didn’t say anything wrong.  The wife is just making assumptions of what he is thinking

Lets look at our FIRST LOVER.  Gal.5:19 “Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like…those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

We like this lover. Especially “…hatred, contentions, jealousies, outburst of wrath, selfish ambitions…”

No??? Am I wrong?  Let’s ask our spouse.  Okay?!?

Let’s now look at our OTHER LOVER.  Gal.5:22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control…”

No assignment today, but it would be interesting if we gave a list of our two lovers and ask our spouse which one we are most like.  LOL!!

I bet our spouse can tell which lover has control of our life.

Gal.5:15 “But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!”

OH WOW! There is a test. Look for bite marks!  [on your spouse]

Don’t get mad at me, I didn’t write that verse.  Silly you!

The Apostle Paul knows how we feel.  Read Romans 7:15-25.

He says what I want to do, I don’t do.  Then what I don’t want to do, I end up doing.

In Romans 7:24, Paul calls himself “wretched”. That word in Greek means “miserable”.

He is saying, I did it my way.  I did what I wanted to do and I’M MISERABLE!!

Wives have you ever had it out with your hubby and you won, or didn’t win, but did what you wanted to do anyway?

How did you feel girlfriend?  Huh, did it feel good??

May I answer that?  No, you didn”t feel good.  You felt miserable because you couldn’t even enjoy yourself.

If you allow the Holy Spirit to help you put your desires aside, you will keep from FOLLOWING THE FLESH.

Romans 8:13 “For if you live according to the …Spirit, you put to death the deeds of the body…”

You must wage war by the power of the Spirit!

Your spouse loves the OTHER LOVER best.

NOTE:  Daily there is new post to help your marriage be a success.

8 Responses to “CHECK FOR BITE MARKS”

  1. angiepasos February 22, 2012 at 8:29 am #

    2 thumbs up!!!!!!! Ouch, that hurt to hear. But I will take it. This can also help me in my parenting skills. lol


    Angie P

    • nancysalazar February 22, 2012 at 8:30 pm #

      Hi Angie! Loved your comment. Goooood Girl! Put it to practice. We all need to pass this test.

  2. Christina R. February 22, 2012 at 4:42 pm #

    Yes, double “ouch” I do like to use that “TERM” ” I think you are thinking”? , and everytime I believe I know what he is thinking and voice it to him I put my foot in my mouth , so no more assuming for me!!!

    Love You

    • nancysalazar February 22, 2012 at 8:31 pm #

      Hi Christina R.! Loved your comment also. We can all have a fresh start of not assuming what our spouse is thinking. Love you!

  3. Alma delia mascarenas February 22, 2012 at 5:56 pm #

    Ya double ouch!!! Like it very much, all true.

  4. nancysalazar February 22, 2012 at 8:33 pm #

    Hi Alma! I loved your comment also! Looks like we all have homework to do!

  5. Martha Navarro February 25, 2012 at 8:54 am #

    Boy i could not say amen to this post only Ouch!(Hurt bad)most definitely. God is so good when we cry out to him he promises us that if we call to Him He will answer adn show us great and mighty things that we do not know. Jeremiah 33:3 (paraphrased)And He uses you sister Nancy to speak to my life in time. Thank you for your sensitivity to His Spirit. Love and appreciation as always.

    • nancysalazar February 25, 2012 at 7:54 pm #

      Hi Martha! Thanks for your encouraging comments. I love the verse that you used. It says it all!

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