COMPANIONS FOREVER
It is said that if you ask a woman to describe what she wants in a husband, she will describe her best friend.
Well I’m glad my husband wasn’t looking for a wife that was like his best friend cause a “Tarzan” I am not.
Malichi 2:14b “”…She is your companion and your wife by covenant…”
The dictionary shows the pan in the middle of the word companion. Pan is the word for bread. Bread is a comfort food. The dictionary has the definition for companion as one who accompanies another.
The Hebrew root word for companion implies intimate partner; accomplice.
THIS EXCITES ME!!!
I’ll tell you why. It is because God made something in husbands that will make them want to be with their wife. And vice versa. He made something in wives that makes them want to be around their hubbies.
YeeHaa! Is that the way you spell it? I don’t know!?! In Los Angeles they say, “What it is”. I think?
I have heard wives tell me for over 40 years, “I don’t know what my husband wants?”
Okay, listen up girls. I’ll tell you!
He wants his GIRLFRIEND back! The one he married. He wants his FRIENDLY FRIEND. He wants his CHEERLEADER!
Has anyone seen her??? Well he hasn’t either for a long time. POOR GUY!
You know that game “‘Where in the world is Waldo? Well where in the world is ____________________.
Maybe she is watching the Food Network Channel. No? Maybe she is texting her entourage instead of paying attention to her husband. No? Maybe she is Shopping. No? Maybe she is busy with the children. No?
Right now I have your attention. You are saying all sorts like:
“I work hard and I am tired when I get home.”
“How do I know what he wants to do? He doesn’t even talk to me.”
“I have kids and they have needs. What am I suppose to do?”
“He has his own hobbies and friends and could care less what I do!”
“I’ll be honest, he is just boring. I do my thing and he does his.”
“I tried. He doesn’t want to be with me.”
“I have other things that are more inspiring than to spend time with him.”
“He is fine just the way he is. Don’t rock the boat.”
“Oh! All of the above.”
Ok girls, I’ll mind my own business (MYOB). I have an assignment for you wives that are any of the above. It’s easy. All you need is a black marker. Are you ready? This is easy!! Start marking out of your bible all the verses that call you a companion or a helpmeet. Don’t forget Proverbs 31. The virtuous woman whose husband is known in the gates, his heart safely trusts in her, he has no lack of gain, she does him good and not evil all the days of her life, and he praises her because of all her thoughtfulness. Don’t forget Song of Solomon, etc.
Now for the wives that don’t have a black marker in their hand. Ask him what he wants to do. Sit and watch football with him. Go see those movies where everything blows up. Go visit your in-laws with him. Go to a game with him. Learn about his hobby or sport. Go sit with him in the garage while he exercises. Seem interested and ask him questions about what he likes. Smile at him. Give him gifts (small and not expensive). Go for a walk with him. Tell him you love him. Listen to him. Listen to him. Listen to him.
Read this once: If you don’t find a babysitter for your children, your husband will find a babysitter for him.
Where in the world did his GIRLFRIEND go? God expects you to be his CHEERLEADER, his FRIENDLY FRIEND!
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
I love this…This past year our marriage was tested. My mother was battling with Cancer and I was her caregiver. To balance everything was not easy. My mother went to heaven 2 weeks ago. But I have to say that my husband was very supportive, I went on FMLA Leave and he will work overtime to make up for my income.
I did ask others to help me during the week or weekend to spend at least one or two hours alone with my husband either to grab lunch, do some grocery shopping, go to the gym, or just go grab some coffee at the local coffee shop because I did not want to loose the bond between him and I. Every Sunday even-though my mother was sick she will watch football with us…now that is a memory he has about my mom and it is very meaningful because it was about something he likes doing.
Now my mom is gone but we have no regrets about lost time either with her or with each-other because we were supportive to each-other…he would understand that it was important for me to spend time with my mom as much as possible but I also understood he needed me to be his wife and give him attention even if it was a for a couple of hours every week.
Thank you for that touching story…I’m so sorry for your loss but what a great example to all of us and testament to your loving heart. God bless you and your husband!
Thank you! God Bless you too.
Hi Gabby! Thanks for your comment. It looks like you did a great job handling what was asked of you by your loved ones. The answer to any situation like that is to let your husband make the decision. As you said in your comment is that he was very supportive. What a great husband!! It is always good to keep an mind in case your husband changes his mind after seeing what the commitment may be doing to his wife personally or to the marriage. What an awesome daughter and wife you are!
Thank You Sister Nancy…All Glory to God who has given me direction and strength. Thank for your blog it has helped me so much.
I don’t know you personally, but I have heard you through many years of bread breaking’s, and all night prayer meetings.
I always remember your famous quote “be his girlfriend”. I never really gave it much thought, because I didn’t want to do any changing (honestly). I can say that reading your blog has helped me understand that.
God had been dealing with me with my weight for a while, and I would just always push it out of the way. My husband has always looked at me like a Barbie doll so I didn’t think I had to do anything about it, but in September we had a weight class at church that helped me change my eating habits. I also exercised and I lost over 40 pounds. = )
Now I really like being his girlfriend. We are going on 20 years being married–thank you Jesus.
Thank you for your blog!!!!!!
Hi Angie! What a fabulous comment! I am very proud of you for your weight loss and exercising. This is very important to your health. Most of all, I am thrilled you are turning back the clock to be his “girlfriend” but probably not as thrilled as he is. Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us Angie. You are my hero!
Accomplice…I like that! I feel like my husband’s accomplice when we’re working together to surprise our kids with something special or doing something that no one else knows we are doing. I like keeping secrets with my husband not keeping them from him. I watched the Super Bowl for the first time this year (ok so I did take a 20 min nap in the third quarter but I came back) with him and he was so excited to tell me what was going on. I didn’t understand much but I hadn’t seen him that animated in a long time. Something so small made such a big difference.
Thank you for your obedience and faithfulness, Sister Nancy!
Hi L.Lopez! Thanks for this fabulous comment! I love, love, love it! Every word. It is not easy to do something with our husband that we do not understand or like at all. Then, you even listened to him explain it to you. Great! I can watch football if there is nothing else for me to do, but it’s not at the top of my list. Keep up the good work. You are a testimony to us all!
Love You!
I just want to thank you for replying to every single comment…I’m amazed every time I see your responses. It’s such a personal touch that I for one appreciate because in this busy life we can feel forgotten. But not by you, never by you. By the way, you don’t need to reply to this one 😎