SATURDAY Q & A 12/24/11
Question #1.
How can I regain the respect I’ve lost for my husband?
Answer #1.
That’s a difficult struggle, because Ephesians 5:33 makes it clear that wives are to respect their husbands. I suggest you make a real effort to think of things you can still respect about your husband. You have to choose to focus on the positive if you want to make your marriage last.
Pull back from the daily routine of life, look at him objectively, and say, “What is good about him? What did I respect in the first place?” Study him again and don’t allow yourself to be blinded by his weaknesses and inadequacies, the things you don’t like.
Some of these positive things may seem basic, but they really are important. In fact, it’s easy for a wife to take some of these things for granted. The fact that a husband goes to work and provides for the family financially is worthy of respect. Maybe he plays ball with your son or daughter. That’s worthy of respect.
You may wish he did more, but if you let him know how much you appreciate what he does, he will feel encouraged. Say,”I’m glad I’m married to a man who’s faithful to provide for his family.” Or write him a note expressing your appreciation and admiration.
NOTE: This article is from Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
Thank you for the reminder…
I appreciate the fact that my husband walks our son to school every morning and when he picks him up from school they stop and pick me flowers.
I appreciate that he makes the coffee in the morning.
I love that he is there with me at every parent/teacher conference.
When our children are sick, he sits up with me to make sure they are ok.
When I forget to take my medication, he brings it to me.
He holds my hand, opens the door and gives me his jacket when I’m cold (even if he’s cold too). And a million other things…
Just like forgiveness, I had to put on respect.
Hi L.Lopez! What a precious precious post! Your post should bring tears to every wife’s eyes. You have articulated such grateful appreciation. I feel like I need to do the same. Love you!
Aww, thank you for the kindness. I have a friend who is always talking about how much she loves her husband. She is a pastor’s wife so she does have opportunity to tell the women in her church how she treats her man. I visited their church on Sunday and the ladies said she still does that, they said “She rubs his feet, serves him dinner every night and looks for ways to bless him. She treats her husband like a king!” I laughed and said, “She treats him like a husband!” My friend gave me a great big hug and said,”Thank you!”
So keep preaching it Sister Nancy, we’re listening…loving you in Pedro!
Hi L.Lopez! Thanks for the comment. I was thinking… who is Pedro? lol!!! Then I realized you meant San Pedro. HaHa!!!