20 Dec


One of the Ten Commandments of Marriage should be, “Never threaten to leave.”  Threats create cracks in the commitment, erode the security of total acceptance, and fuel fear.  In addition, threats rarely cause a person to change; they communicate only rejection.

Rather than to threaten to leave, each of us should creatively express our commitment and acceptance to our mates.
God gave us an example to follow.  He didn’t tell us only once that he loved us, He told us often and in many ways.  He even sent His son to demonstrate His love, and He gave us His Word.  He continues to show us His love through the ongoing ministry of the Holy Spirit.

Our mates need to hear words of commitment and acceptance, not just once but many times.  Tell your mate often how much you love her.  Tell him you accept him just as he is.

Each time a difficulty arises in your relationship–a misunderstanding, a difference, or a clash of wills–remind your mate that you intend to remain loyal.  Assure him that your commitment will not change because of this unfortunate situation.  Such infusions of truth will become the reinforcements you both need to work through any difficulties.

NOTE:  This post is an article taken out of Family Life and Marriage Bible by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage be a success.


  1. Eva December 20, 2011 at 11:50 am #

    Amen sister Nancy..this is soooooo true…I never looked at it this way. In addition, if you have children & if we as married couples make it their business to hear such threats…I’m positive will have a fiercely negative impact on them and cause fear within them.

  2. nancysalazar December 20, 2011 at 7:03 pm #

    Hi Eva! Thanks so much for your comment. This is a great article and so important to the development to those who are around us. God is so good to show us the devils devices.

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