26 Sep


For any marriage to be blissful, couples should understand the 5 phases of marital love.

All the phases must manifest in every home, if the home is to be a place of love and togetherness.

Phase 1Attraction:

This is what we call face love.

It involves accepting the outlook of your spouse and be intoxicated by it.

As soon as a man loses interest in the outlook and dressing of his wife, it will affect other phases of love.

Both husband and wife should train themselves to be interested in the outlook of their spouse.

Phase 2 – Emotion:

This is what we do refer to as “mind love”.

It involves giving room for deep affection toward one’s spouse.

It is heartfelt love; it’s frequency is always very high before wedding, during honey moon and shortly after the wedding.

But most of the time, it doesn’t last as couples begin to take each other for granted.

It affects their feelings, and kills the “mind love”.

Phase 3 – Compulsion Love:

It is known as responsibility love.

This is the kind that exists between a man and his wife that makes them stay together and perform their duties to each other even when they are no more attractive to each other and affection is gone.

This is what remains in many marriages; when it departs from the home, there is likely to be separation and divorce.

Phase 4 – Passion:

This is known as sexual love.

It is the aspect that makes the man to desire to sleep with his wife.

If it exists between unmarried people, it is called lust.

Most of the time wives are the first to lose this face of love.

In fact, it is one of the things a woman loses when she is unhappy with her husband, thereby leading to sexual denial of her husband.

Phase 5 – Compassion:

It is known as a God kind of love or agape love.

This love is unusual; it is not based on the outlook, body chemistry, feelings or happenings around us.

It is a love that is deep rooted in kindness and acceptance.

It is a sacrificial love.

Unfortunately very few couples got married based on this kind of love; most women based their marriages on emotional love, while men based theirs on attraction and passion.

NOTE:  This article was written by Bisi Adewale.

NOTE:  Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.


  1. Martha Navarro September 30, 2011 at 9:51 am #

    Thank you sister Nancy for sharing this post. My marriage to my husband is still fairly young. This November we will celebrate our 10 wedding anniversary. In reading this i can say i am truly blessed today, this marriage has been one of the hardest and most rewarding things i have ever experienced. Happily i can say that i am truly blessed today knowing that where we are in our marriage, if i could catagorize it in this way is in the compassion phase with many testimonies of Gods grace and mercy through the other four phases. Our work is cut out for us still in this compassion phase because of our fallen nature that is continually contending with us to be selfish. Thanks to the Holy Spirit; the precious third person of the Trinity I am an overcomer. To God be the Glory.
    Love you and miss you.
    Your Sister and Friend in Christ.

    • nancysalazar September 30, 2011 at 3:51 pm #

      Hi Martha! Thanks for your great comment. What a blessing that you have been married for 10 years. God is so good! Marriage is always a challenge but as you stated, the Holy Spirit is our guide and comforter. You are blessed!

  2. Pastor Atanda Daniel June 16, 2012 at 10:29 am #

    I am realy blessed with your messages and i want daily post of your marital message to boost my marriage it is just 4 years plus old. God bless you

    • nancysalazar June 18, 2012 at 2:14 pm #

      Hi Atanda! Thank you for your comment and encouraging words. You can subscribe to this post for free and it will be sent to your email address or you can just log on every day as you did today. Daily there is a new post. Love having you on board. We are committed to help marriages succeed.

  3. Adejoke September 21, 2012 at 10:20 pm #

    The Lord wil refresh ur anointing on daily basis. More of it.

    • nancysalazar September 22, 2012 at 10:54 am #

      Hi Adejoke!

      Thank you for your comment. I appreciate your encouragement and I am looking forward to the future.!

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