SHORT FUSED SPOUSE: WHAT TO DO
The Apostle Paul used the word AGAPE to describe the highest level of love in this world that is from God.
Paul uses the description to explain what AGAPE love is in 1Corinthians 13.
God designed these verses so we would know if we were walking at his highest level of loving.
1Cor.13:4 “Charity (agape love) suffereth long…”
Long suffering, in the Greek, MAKROTHUMIA, means “the patient restraint of anger.”
Long suffering is to endure, to put up with people and circumstances.
Do you lose your patience from time to time with your spouse?
Do these situations involve people or things?
What are some of these situations that cause you not to be so long suffering?
Long suffering is when you are in a difficult situation with your spouse or anyone else and you decide to put up with them.
Once you accept Jesus Christ as your LORD and Savior, longsuffering is required to maintain our hope in Gods promises.
If you don’t have hope or purpose for your life, why would you wait? Why would you continue to suffer? You would give up!!
Love will be patient no matter what the situation.
is prepared to burn a long time if it has that long wick.
You are to forbear and patiently wait if you have the characteristic of the highest level of AGAPE love.
Can you show longsuffering till your spouse finally comes around and make progress.
Do you patiently wait while you try to teach or communicate to your spouse.
Longsuffering is forbearing without reacting in anger or turning away.
Long suffering is not a feeling.
Our human nature wants to get nervous and hyper as soon as it has to be patient.
Can you hold tight to your trust in God?
Longsuffering is a decision of the will; it is a decision to endure in faith.
The long view is to forgive each other’s failures and to hold tight to our trust in God.
Keep going even though your husband doesn’t respond to you!
Do you say that you are sick and tired of waiting for your spouse to change?
Have you stopped hoping and believing?
Does this relationship test your patience?
If this is true, you need an injection of AGAPE love right now!
Ask the Holy Spirit to help you!
NOTE: Don’t miss tomorrow’s post which has tips to help you be a successful spouse.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
I don’t know how…but God is somehow speaking through you directly to me!!! I’ve been long suffering for the better part of this year and it hurts to even think that is my reality. But during this suffering, I have built a better relationship with God and for that I am thankful. I have never been short-fused with my wife nor do I ever desire to treat her in a way that she does not deserve. She is my queen and I will forever treat her as such. To some degree, I feel that I understand the plight of Jesus as He was being punished and ultimately sacraficed for our well being. I feel I am going through some pain for the better well being of our marriage. Jesus died for people who don’t even appreciate Him…but He still did it. I’m suffering now even though my wife shows sign that she does not appreciate me and what I do for us. But, as you said, Love will be patient no matter what the situation.
Hi Dion! Remember that God gives us double for your trouble. It is in Isaiah and Jeremiah. Unity is so important to Jesus. He said “I wish that you would be one as my father and I are one.” Read 1Peter 3:7-18. God allows negative issues in our life so he can teach us to be that “perfect bride” that he is coming for. You are in our prayers ! Keep up the godly -, good work!
Hey i felt God speak to me i have a short fuse there was a time in my life i pray a specife pray so finally gave up cuz it did not happen quick then 2 yrs later it happen and i am glad it did talk about long suffering and apgage love but i give thank to God
Hi Jenna! Thanks for your great comment! What a blessing it is when God comes through. God is never in a hurry. He knows what we need in our lives. God bless you!
My husband was like that for years. He had the shortest and most volatile temper I’d ever had the misfortune to encounter…and unfortunately it was usually directed at me. The one person who was supposed to love me more than anyone else in the world was horrible to me. He would actually yell at me while I was cooking for him, scrubbing his back in the shower and even tying his shoes. I never responded in anger or bitterness. It took all the Jesus in me to not shred his clothes one day when he walked out on me but God spoke to me so clearly that, “This too you do unto Me.” With scissors in hand I fell to my knees and cried for hours. God renewed me that day and am I so glad He did! We now have a marriage that is so much stronger than I ever thought it could be. People ask us how long we’ve been dating because they say we look like we have a new love…we laugh! We have been married for 17 years this October!
L.Lopez,
Your comment gives me additional hope. My wife is currently treating me as you described your husband. The sad part is that it came out of no where. I’ve stressed myself trying to figure out what I did to deserve this negative treatment. She doesn’t like tackling tough issues with communication and tells me, “its not you, its me”. Folks used to refer to us as the “model couple”. It really feels like I live with a stranger by the way she acts. Thank you for your comment…helps a lot! Early congrats on 17 years…what a blessing! I will remember you on our 17th anniversary.
Hi Dion! I loved your comment! You are surrounded with friends from this blog that are praying for you. Then bible says in heaven that they are cheering you on!
Hi L.Lopez! I can’t thank you enough for that powerful comment/testimony. You are a living example of the love of God and the power of the Holy Spirit in your marriage. Thanks so much for sharing this for all the world to read!
I sure need this 🙂 I always read your blog at the right time. I need to not give up and hold on to GOD’s promises and wait patiently.
Hi Gabby! God loves it when we wait on him. It is our demonstration of trust. Even when it is hard for us but we continue to trust, He gets that glory! You go girl!!!